Issue with another child at kindy
Printed From: OHbaby!
Category: Have A Baby?
Forum Name: Kindy and Beyond
Forum Description: So you've survived the sleepless nights and toddler tantrums, now the fun really begins! Talk to other parents of older children here!
URL: https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32068
Printed Date: 27 November 2024 at 7:29am
Software Version: Web Wiz Forums 12.05 - http://www.webwizforums.com
Topic: Issue with another child at kindy
Posted By: KH25
Subject: Issue with another child at kindy
Date Posted: 04 March 2010 at 4:20pm
A couple of times this week, Ashleigh has come home and told me about another girl being mean to her. She is saying things like you're not my friend, I don't like you and you're not nice etc. Ashleigh has been telling me very matter of factly and it doesn't seem to be upsetting her but I'm not sure if it is upsetting her when it is actually happening. I've told her the normal things, just stay away from her and play with your friends etc or if she is really upsetting you then go and tell a teacher. Ash is a very friendly girl and would play with anyone but only if they approach her first so she definately wouldn't be starting this or doing anything mean to this other girl. I realise this is all a normal part of young children playing (still heartbreaking though, especially as this is the first time anything like this has happened  and I wanna go slap this horrible little girl lol!!). So my question is, should I just leave it like that and keep checking with Ash if it is happening or should I have a quiet word to the head teacher about it? This girl is part of about 5 or 6 girls who always play together so I would hate for them all to start doing things like this.------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Replies:
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 04 March 2010 at 4:26pm
|
i would talk to the kindy teachers and they will give you the whole picture and assure you that it is normal. and so long as ashleigh is dealing with it in an appropriate way then i dont think you have anything to worry about. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
|
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 04 March 2010 at 10:49pm
|
I agree with Bizzy ,and for your reassurance , get the teachers to keep an eye on it .
AHhh ,the joys of girls! at around four they start the whole "your not my friend anymore " tbh , your daughter may end up doing it as well , I always said C wouldn't be a girl who did that , nearly fell off my chair the day I heard her say to another little girl "I don't like you , you aren't my friend anymore ! " Ashleigh may end up dealing with it by being like Caitlyn and preferring the company of the boys .... ------------- 
|
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 05 March 2010 at 7:48am
|
Thanks guys, yeah I'm sure Ashleigh will be the one saying it in the future, I just know that right now she wants to be everyones friend lol but I'm waiting for it to change! I did hear her playing with her barbies the other day and heard the whole "you're not my friend" blah blah exchange going on, that's how I knew someone had said it to her otherwise she wouldn't even think of saying something like that!
I'll have a quiet word with the teacher when she goes back next week  ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 05 March 2010 at 8:37pm
|
Good idea about talking to her teacher. I'm sure they'll keep a close eye on things
ETA: Brenna was talking about going on a holiday and taking you and Ashleigh with her...awww...they're so cute together -------------  My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
|
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 11 March 2010 at 9:50pm
|
we had same issues at DC about a month or so ago - apparently her BFFs were no longer her friends either...I mentioned to DC teacher as bubbas words were breaking my heart. The teacher cracked up ....apparently madame is THE centre of attention and gives as good as she gets in the "im not your friend" category...but she did say she would watch it and tell them to be friends...AND awesome teacher she is - she did two friendship circles on 2 days following where they tell each other they are their friends etc ....NICE and it worked!
gah - girls can be so mean!!! 
|
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 24 March 2010 at 3:24pm
|
yeah one thing i find it that kids are COMPLETLY different when not with the parents........my boy goes to daycare with his friend and when he is hear with his parents he full on punchies my boy but apparently at school h is a saint........i asked teachers to keep on eye on them and although my boy shares etc he has learnt to give as much as he gets some of the things he does is hard for me to believe ......... oh and i did hear a young boy tell my boy he is ugly.......i almost cried but left it to see what ty would do.....he poked his tougue out and did the hole 'farting' noise......you had to laugh..........i think kids are more on to it then we give them credit for...oh and my boy is gonna be 'HOT" when he is older and a lawyer to get the other 'sh*t' out of jail lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: popcorn
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 9:05pm
|
We get this all the time at preschool! Especially once girls get to about 3 years old.
Bombshell, what is this friendship circle they do? sounds like we could borrow that technique! |