Behaviour
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Topic: Behaviour
Posted By: ellabellame
Subject: Behaviour
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 8:55am
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My 5 year old has been at school for a whole term now but his behaviour isn't really improving. The other day I had to go and pick him up from school at 1pm because the teacher said she just couldn't get him to do anything.
He's just a really energetic boy who would rather be outside and who doesn't see why he should sit on the mat and listen. I just don't know what to do, I feel like I'm doing something wrong to make him act this way. ------------- |
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 10:14am
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wow what a bad teacher she must be not to be able to motivate a 5 yr old to do anything! Maybe he needs a diferent teacher? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 10:24am
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I don't think it was that so much, I think I worded it wrong. I think what it was was that he wouldn't do what he was told and kept distracting the other children and not doing his work etc.
It would be hard to get a different teacher anyway, we'd have to change schools. It's a small country school with just one class for 5 and 6 year olds. ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 10:45am
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oh dear - i think that the teacher is partly to blame. Its not as if they do hard work, and they should be making it fun. Gabriel did lots of colouring in and cutting out and stuff like that in his first couple of terms. Did he attend a kindy before school? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 11:13am
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Yes, he had attended a kindy since he was 3 but they had very little sitting down, listening and following instructions which are the things he has trouble with now. ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:17pm
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Oh thats a bit strange. I definitley think the school should be better equipped to deal with this but maybe you could talk to the head or deputy about what you could do. Maybe he isnt ready for school yet though. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:17pm
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did the kindy teachers ever express concern with his behaviour? ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 12:59pm
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Not all kids attend kindy so i find it hard to believe that a teacher hasnt had experience with kids who arent used to sitting and listening. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 1:13pm
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Freckle - the kindy teachers did express some concern early on about his social behaviour but that was more about finding it hard to interact with other children in a socially acceptable way (he had trouble sharing etc.), but he's got past that and now loves other kids and adores the social aspect of school.
Bizzy - I found it a bit strange too that they didn't know what to do with him. I guess I'll see how he goes and whether it carries on or not. Don't get me wrong, he's an amazing kid and I love him to pieces, I just feel sad that other people might not see him as the wonderful wee guy that I do. ------------- |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 6:48pm
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My five year old is autistic and frequently does things that are "inappropriate". the teacher has NEVER asked me to pick him up cause they can't deal with him. I think you need to sit down with his teacher, ask what your boy is doing, and then ask what THEY are doing, cause it dounds like he is being a five year old boy, not naughty and they should be able to handle it
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 16 May 2011 at 7:49pm
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Thanks for that Lizzle, I think I'll have to do that. I wouldn't think that he's the first energetic young boy to come into the classroom. ------------- |
Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 17 May 2011 at 12:48am
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Hopefully it's just that he an energetic young boy.
He sounds similarish to my DD who is 7 1/2. Hopefully his difficulty isn't the same as her's though. Sophie has significant developmental delays, though the have been observed by a Child Adolescent Health & Mental Services social worker, they have not formally been reviewed. She is on the long waiting list for Child Development team to do an assessment. Her issues became apparent partly at Kindy. She used to moan and grizzle instead of using words. She didn't understand the concept of taking turns and Kindy teachers told me on several occasions, that she was pushing other children off play equipment. She has had speech therapy since Kindy and til about 6 and her speech and language is fine now. Problems she had/has, became more evident once she started school. Since starting school, she has had a teacher aid, reading recovery and worked with a resource teacher. She is getting better, but socially, she'd rather be a loner, then join in. But that's more she's unsure when it comes to social interactions and how to initiate them. To be honest, I find she is more able to relate to younger children and seems in the same stage as younger children. Of course it saddens me that she has these issues and as a mum, I think I've done something wrong, but fact is, I haven't. Don't think your boy has the same issues as my Sophie. But yeah, that's just what's going on with her. Her teacher does struggle at times, as to what to do, as Sophie is disruptive and very attention seeking and demanding of the teachers time and she loves one to one, but the reality is, the teacher can't offer her much one to one in the usual sized classroom. -------------   
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 17 May 2011 at 2:56pm
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Wow escadachic, that sounds like it would be hard to deal with. And like you said, it doesn't sound like it's anything that you did wrong as a parent, some children just need a bit more help than others.
It doesn't sound like my boy though, his speech is really good and in his teacher's words "academically he is doing really well but it's being over-shadowed by his behaviour". The last couple of days he's been coming home from school really happy and he says he's been listening to his teacher and doing what he is asked to do (other times if I've asked him if he's been behaving he replies "oops, I forgot". Maybe he was just going through a bad patch and just needed a bit of a chat. Here's hoping  ------------- |
Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 17 May 2011 at 6:21pm
Oh that's really good to hear  -------------
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