am i setting myself up to fall
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Topic: am i setting myself up to fall
Posted By: emile
Subject: am i setting myself up to fall
Date Posted: 07 February 2007 at 9:08pm
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what do u think about buying baby clothes or things? am i setting myself up for failure - i somtimes see lovely things or think i should get somthing i like on special or while i have the money
what do u think? emile |
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 07 February 2007 at 9:28pm
| Depends on your state of mind i think. If you think you would get upset having them around as a reminder every month then no I wouldnt suggest it. If you were thinking in terms of while you have the money then i would maybe put the money you spend away either by vouchers for malls or a savings account or bonus bonds so that WHEN it does finally happen you will have the money to go crazy! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 February 2007 at 10:03pm
I know they're so cute but... what if you don't like those clothes in 9+ months (fashion or taste change) and it is good to know what season baby is due for example, a winter baby won't fit size 1 summer clothes etc. So its a bit impractical, sorry  -------------  |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 08 February 2007 at 8:57am
I used to buy things in advance before i was pregnant and i am glad i did  I left the big things liek prams, dressers and cot till when i was pregnant
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 08 February 2007 at 9:01am
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PS i just got rompers and things like that
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Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 08 February 2007 at 9:09am
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Personally I wouldn't as I would have found it a constant reminder. Even now that I am pregnant I haven't bought one thing yet, and don't think I will until I am 20 weeks. Although I am going for my 12 week NT scan today, so I'll see how I feel. There's plenty of time once you are pregnant for lots of glorious shopping! ------------- Lou http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 February 2007 at 9:49am
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I bought a few little things in a sale after I had my m/c, friends thought I was nuts and I suspect they also thought I wasn't dealing with it very well but to me it was just like trying to reaffirm to myself that I *would* get pregnant again, and I *would* carry a baby to term. I think I needed to do it, it was quite cathartic.
Funnily enough the gremlins never wore any of the stuff I bought then coz I only had one of everything and ended up with two babies! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 08 February 2007 at 2:22pm
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I'm with my2angels ...it *really* depends on your state of mind.
I used to buy the odd thing, which I've now, except for a couple of things that I don't want to give up, given it all away. I also, every month, when I got AF, would buy a big thing, and now I have a fully equipped nursery incl cot, change table, push chair, the works - which has been sitting there looking at me for nearly 2 years. I'm pretty strong, and have occasional bad days, but for the most part I have my attitude is pretty even about the whole infertility thing. But, if I was you, based on your post the other day, as much as you may want to, I think emotionally you'll find it too hard to have the things around. The idea of putting money aside is a really good one. That's sort of how DH and I do it now - if we have a little extra, we just pop it into our savings. Or we'll put it into doing something around the house to make the house nicer for when I'm a SAHM mum, and when we won't have the disposable income to do things. That way, we're doing something practical, something nice for both of us to enjoy, but not something revolving around a yet-to-be-conceived baby. ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Phat_Cat
Date Posted: 22 February 2007 at 10:18pm
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yes it does depend on your state of mind. over the 2 years it took us to concieve i did buy stuff & it sure as helped now that if we want the bigger more luxary items we otherwise we save. I havent regreted anything ive bought & if this one doesnt fit it then the next one might LOL. On the other hand I did go through a stage of not buying anything cause i was down & had it all packed up in a cupboard but when i got it out it was like christmas hahahahahaha Am also finding that working full time & have a busy life my pregnancy is just zooming by..... just my thoughts anyways ------------- Tristen - 24/06/07 Rylan - 11/12/08 Angel Babies -14/08/05 & 21/01/2010 Curtis - 26/02/12 |