Special cuddles after C/S
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Topic: Special cuddles after C/S
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Subject: Special cuddles after C/S
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 9:18am
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I have a question for all you girls, how long did you wait for special cuddles, and did it hurt.
Dh and I tried last week (5 weeks after Jacks birth) and it hurt, a lot, I really didn't think it would given I didn't deliver naturally and though I expected some uncomfortableness, I didn't expect incredible pain. What were other girls experiences? (if you don't mind sharing) ------------- "> 
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Posted By: EllenMumof2
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 10:05am
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i waited till 8 weeks as i bleed off and on for the first 6 weeks and it hurt a little but not to much -------------  
 
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Posted By: SuziE
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 10:55am
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about 7 but i found it uncomfortable and painful .. i was nervous too which didnt help... came right probably around week 12 - 14ish ..
I still have the libido of a gnat though ..... just cant seem to get that spark happening  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 12:29pm
4 weeks after c/s (7-8 weeks after stitches in the 'other area') ... I was "tight" and it felt like we had to start all over again in some ways, but although sometimes uncomfy I never experienced "incredible pain"  -------------  |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 2:11pm
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We were told to wait till 8 weeks, but by week 4 we gave it a go. I did not suffer any pain, but was also a bit tight. 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 5:28pm
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Special cuddles? Okay I am going to take this is like how you made the baby right?
I actually cant remember when. I was spotting so damn much on the mini pill. I actually really cant remember. It was a bit tight but it wasnt sore or anything. But then I am like really small down there. (one of the freaking trouble we had for McKayla. ) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 5:44pm
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yip you are right Shirena, but we aren't trying to make a baby.
Well we might give it another go, it was tight, even with lubrication, and initially I would have lept off the bed had it not been for dh being on top (oh my way TMI here). If things persist might head to the doctor to just check things out. Can't help wondering if it has something to do with Jack getting stuck ------------- ">
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 6:53pm
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Im so naughty & only waited a week. Yea i was still bleeding & stuff; but what can you tell your partner half pissed on New Years Eve/ Day. He promised to be gently, coz i was a bit nervous. Yea it hurt a bit to start with, then the tightness loosened up...... or whatever. LMAO ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 10 May 2007 at 10:48pm
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we are still waiting....heck im still bleeding, DH is sick, and his PA tells story of jumping her hubbys bones 6 weeks after birth of number 2 and thats how number three was made....so am in nooooooo hurry!!!
and not sure mini pill will work.....i love ella but soooo dont need another one yet...hence my total lack right now of being inspired to even try and get him going much....yeah TMI but he is moaning at me that he doesnt think he will ever get it again....LMAO!!! he may be right!!! 
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 11 May 2007 at 2:44am
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We tried it first at about 6wks I think and I too found it painful - does not help of course that it's difficult to get in the mood with the baby sleeping in the bassinet next to us
We have tried it a few times since and although improving it's still not pain free. In fact I ended up going to my doc to get checked out 2 wks ago or so and was told it's quite normal for this to happen and there is nothing wrong down there. LOL Bombshell - my DH is the same! Aren't men funny 
ETA - just noticed the title of the post! Mine was vb not c/s  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 11 May 2007 at 8:32pm
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After my first I waited 2 weeks & after #2 I waied just on 10 days
1st time after son #1 I think we used ALOT of lube LOL! I think it IS very different for everyone too. If you don't mind me asking, but where did it hurt?? Inside or scar? ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 12 May 2007 at 8:29am
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it hurt inside, basically like I was revirginised, but much worse than the first time. From memory (going back a few days here) it was quite deep inside as well though, so more like cervix/uterus ------------- ">
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 12 May 2007 at 9:29am
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it was about 12wks after my cs that it stopped hurting even with lube...but it was 9mths before it was completely comfortable aagain....it was like being a born again virgin...hubby loves it...lol
although i was told off as i should have seen the doctor as it was still hurting...so dont leave it too long ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 12 May 2007 at 8:44pm
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We didn't have special cuddles until about 10 weeks as I was still bleeding and was a good girl and waited until it stopped. Although was rather keen to jump right back in there but waited. From memory it was not too bad did use lub and told DH to be awfully gentle. I can also remember feeling nervous - like I was a teenager again!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 13 May 2007 at 10:02pm
I think for me it was around the 7 week mark. If it wasn't for the fact that special cuddles and blood make me feel  it would have been sooner.
The first time it does hurt. I don't know if anyone else had/remembers this but I had contractions the day after my c/s and it can reduce the size of your birth canal. Not to worry though as it usually stretches out again. I must say though that I in generally feel a lot smaller downstairs now. I can feel when my cervix has dropped (as it does naturally but I can see people scratching their heads thinking - mine doesn't! does it? LOL) when we got at it. Although in saying I feel smaller than before, I don't mean that before I was like hiffing a hotdog down K Rd! My friend was actually really surprised when I told her, she just assumed that it was a vaginal birth thing to be tight afterwards. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: SuziE
Date Posted: 14 May 2007 at 9:02am
Bahahahahaha!!! After my second vb my doc slapped me on the butt and said "you could drive a truck up there now love"
I felt very tight down there (or up there) after my CS and couldnt understand why.... now I know Im not the only one .... ohbaby is great for answering those funny little questions  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Peace wrote:Posted By: Southlandmummy
Date Posted: 15 May 2007 at 10:50pm
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OMG.. I thought it was only me who felt like a virgin again..
I think *I* waited about 3 months, much to hubbys discust.. ------------- Cindy - Princess and Princes Samia Isobel Joy born 9th September 2008 Spencer Graeme John born 29th May 2006 Kaylin Gavin Robert born 19 December 2004 |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 18 May 2007 at 4:18pm
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right, well we have tried again, and still had pain, but not as much. I think it is a revirginised problem now but in no way did I expect things to hurt like they did.
There are so many things people don't tell you about for post pregnancy! ------------- ">
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Posted By: luna
Date Posted: 22 May 2007 at 9:17pm
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I think it was about 3 or 4 weeks and oh boy, yeah, it hurt A LOT! We tried again about 2-3 weeks later and it still hurt a lot even with lube.
Can't remember how long it actually took to feel ok, but glad things are getting better for you. ------------- Selina http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 05 June 2007 at 11:53am
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I haven't tried yet as I'm still bleeding but was very surprised after less than a week to be really really wanting to!
But I think I'll wait till the bleeding stops. Blood and special cuddles don't do it for me either.
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 11:38am
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Ohhhh now I understand why it hurts so much!
We (or I if we're bing honest) waited 3 months too, due to never being in the mood (shattered all the time). It's still tender (in an ouchie sort of way) even now Hope it gets better before we start TTC as it's not a good incentive!
I'm gonna start a new post "Things we should have been told post CS" ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 2:19pm
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We used lube (quite often until AF returns you will be a bit drier down there) but also found that the more regular, the sooner things stretch. Hehe you don't talk about this stuff at coffee groups either! ------------- |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 10:57pm
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DH finally got his smile back last week....!!!!
NO mood and seriously I envisioned my scar ripping apart...silly i know but was NOOOOOO incentive to go there!!! |
Posted By: TaylasMum
Date Posted: 09 June 2007 at 10:53pm
| We waited for 12 weeks, I was nervous more than anything. My poor partner, I sooo lucky hes very suppportive and waited till I was ready. |
Posted By: kell
Date Posted: 11 June 2007 at 1:50pm
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We waited 2 weeks, the day I got home from hospital DH jumped me lol. It didnt hurt and I was still bleeding but we had a lovely shower afterwards ------------- Kayla Rose is now 4! James Sydney is nearly 2! |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 16 June 2007 at 10:03pm
| I was thinking that maybe I was a bit too quick to jump back on the horse (so to speak)(LOL) reading everyones posts, but then I got to the bottom and I see that someone else (Kell) was quicker than me! Nothing wrong with that though! I had my first special cuddles this morning and it didn't hurt and pretty much no blood either, so was great! So yeah, three weeks and four days after surgery. |
Posted By: kell
Date Posted: 17 June 2007 at 10:31am
ROFL 
Glad you had fun ------------- Kayla Rose is now 4! James Sydney is nearly 2! |
Posted By: midnight_sakura
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 2:36pm
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I find the special cuddles after a CS including being revirginized gives me alot of pain in the abdomen/pelvic area afterwards for a day or so.. does that happen to anyone else?
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 4:13pm
| I am finding the same thing Americanbaby. Although I have this pain on one side of my abdomen/pelvis all the time when I move, it seems to be worse after special cuddles. I guess it's just all part of healing. |
Posted By: midnight_sakura
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 5:07pm
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I have endometriosis as well and i was wondering if that was the cause of the pain. So its good to know that it is related to the CS instead
I even get the pain without cuddles... |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 21 June 2007 at 6:42pm
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I thought mine was because of retroverted uterus, cause I have felt it at other times too. Although the c/s did make things a bit more tender for a while. ------------- |