y da he!! are guyz so stupid??
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Topic: y da he!! are guyz so stupid??
Posted By: Tami
Subject: y da he!! are guyz so stupid??
Date Posted: 06 August 2005 at 5:43pm
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geez.some guyz r so stupid.my babys dad has jus told me in the past few weeks he wants a d.n.a test.hes in chch at the moment but hes cuming back nxt week.he nos its his baby.he doesnt want 2 pay for anything for him.so y the hell does he want 2 go have a dna test done when he nos its his and pay at least $1200.gees some guyz r lame.oh and also hes putting his bloody job b4 is son as well!!
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 August 2005 at 4:05pm
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First of all, apply for child support now.
I applied pretty much as soon as Hannah was born without realising that you have to have established paternity before child support can start happening. But... (hehehe this is the good part  ) when I called the department the lady who was talking to me said "We'll put your application on file, but unfortunately that means that the child support payments will be backdated to when you applied." *muhahaha* That works fine and dandy for me, as when the DNA tests come through Chris will be obligated to pay from Nov 04. I'm so nasty! Kept me smiling for weeks 
You will only have to pay a $50 contribution to the lawyer you use and I'm pretty sure you will be able to get legal aid. He'll unfortunately have to come up with his side if he is working. So I guess it is ultimately him who suffers by getting the DNA tests done. Maybe when paternity is proven he'll make more of an effort and accept some responsibility? Good luck! If you have any questions ask away. I'm getting my results in the next month. I can't wait for Chris to hear from his lawyer that he is Hannah's father. Stupid boy. |
Posted By: amykate
Date Posted: 08 August 2005 at 11:11am
If he wants it so badly make him pay all costs - it will be his loss and egg on his face. Try not to let his negativity ruin the wonders of being as mum
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 08 August 2005 at 12:22pm
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Niki....I loved your "Muhaha"...cracked me up!
I agree...if he wants it let him pay for it. I dont know the rules like Niki...but getting lump sum of money cant be bad for you ya? Do what is best for you and your baby. Good luck! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 08 August 2005 at 12:22pm
Hey if he wants the paternity test then let him get it done! If he wants to know then he has to pay. The only thing that could go wrong was if it came up that he wasn't the dad then you would have to pay back the costs, but it sounds to me that there is no chance of that happening!! 
This happened to my friend Stephanie and her ex paid the price and it came back positive that it was his. Now he is paying child support and even now and again actually comes to see his daughter Michaela ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Tami
Date Posted: 08 August 2005 at 5:22pm
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lol..hes cuming back on friday.hes paying every thing but the $50 but i think thats a little price to pay to see the look on his face then hes told khayles his!!!!!!oh and im to young to get a benifit so hes on my mums benifit and i got to pay clhild support as well....does that matter?oh and also as well as having this done he wants me to get back with him?and hes also bring his friend up(hes in chch) ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com">
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 19 August 2005 at 10:39am
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I agree some men are sooooo lame. And i get really annoyed with the whole DNA test thing when deep down you know they know the truth. And its so sad to see dads out there missing out on such amazing joy in watching their kids grow up. Well as everyone else is saying he can pay for the dna test and look like a fool when it comes back positive. Be positive and dont let him get you down. As for getting back together well thats up to you but make him prove his worth to you first!!!!
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 19 August 2005 at 11:55am
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hmmm looking back on those posts. joke was on me huh?
wish i wasn't so cocky now! hahaha |
Posted By: Tami
Date Posted: 20 August 2005 at 8:20am
ok....well in the weekend he came and seen his son...hes changed his mind bout the test...he said it was his mum making him do it...which would b rite his mother h8s me...hes going 2 put his name on babys b.c.....and hes told me hes moving back here at the end of the year...and when he does we r going to get back together...gees my mum even said if he does move back then he can live with us ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com">
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Posted By: mumstheword
Date Posted: 20 August 2005 at 9:49am
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My sons fathers mother hated me when Caleb was born I was a SL*T and was just trying to trap her son for his money???? what ever what she didnt know then was he had so much debt he had no money, But also I left him while I was preg and she was stilla b*tch to me sayn we we would get nothing from them and Im a family wrecker.. They tried to force D.N.A tests but I refused my son was so sick and on ICU in the neo nates but they made thet trip down to palmy to see him at about 5days old, they knew straight away that he was there paterenal grandchild as the poor boy does actually look like his dad, and they excepted us from that day onwards and play a big part in Calebs life as he is older he goes to Taupo and stays on there farm with them, and if I want to get away I go up there to, they are like another set of parents now, but Caleds stupid sperm donor dosnt see jack of him, he promised hed move to palmy and wed get back together and hed be a great dad blah blah, he came to visit seemy regularly for the first year and that was it, im so glad we didnt get back together cause he is so unreliable, he was 24 when I had Caleb and to this day he acts lie alittle boy...
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 20 August 2005 at 4:41pm
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Tami, only get back with him if you want to. It's not worth the stress and uncertainty for you and your son if it's not going to be good for you.
Otherwise make him prove himself. If he's a good Dad and boyfriend then maybe he is worth it! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 21 August 2005 at 2:09pm
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Ditto that! Willie and I split up when Maya was 3 mths old, and he spent 18 mths trying to prove that he was a good Dad and partner, and I think he's finally got it! He's taken Maya today up to visit his family while I pack to go to Aussie tomorrow. Mind you, it's been a long time coming, all thru my pregnancy he was horrible. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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