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Topic: HHHEEEEELLLLLLPPPPP
Posted By: nuttymama
Subject: HHHEEEEELLLLLLPPPPP
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 7:02pm
Abby is driving us insane. Up until I stopped last week the only food Abby would eat at dinner time was watties 1-3 year tins. We decided it was high time she ate proper food,and were advised to stop cold turkey but she won't give in .
Now dinner time is stressful as all she does is cry and throw her food. I only put tiny amounts of food on her plate but she won't even try it, on the two occasions she did she gags and dry retches. This applies to everything, potatoes, carrots (which she loved in her other meals) Pasta, any meat, all other vegetables and so on................ Tonight i felt so mean as I had promised the kids an ice cream after tea, but the rule is you don't eat your tea you don't get. So Abby didn't get one and she sobbed and kept saying pease mummy pease.  .
Help me ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
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Posted By: marielb
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 7:15pm
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Does it bug you that she will only eat tinned food?
It sounds to me like its far too stressful for her and mabye cold turkey isn't the way to go. Maybe just keep reducing the amount of tinned food and add a bit of 'real' food onto her plate too. Hugs to you, it sucks when they cry like that xx |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 7:40pm
hi there have you tryed mixing small amounts of real food into her tinned food mushed up so she donst see it and solwy increase the amount untill shes eating real food james is a very picky eater and i,m trying to get him to eat furit so i feel your fustrtions big hugs hun ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 8:20pm
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I would decrease the amount she has from the tin instead of cold turkey (it doesn't always work with everyone). Also you could be sneaky and wash the tins out and store them in your pantry and then bang the spoon around a bit like you are getting it out but you aren't actually doing that (may fool her a bit), if she doesn't watch you dish dinner up. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 8:26pm
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I think you did the right thing Vick and that tomorrow (or whenever icecream is next offered) she'll remember. She'll be ok. What kinds of foods does she like? Does she prefer a spoon or by hand? At her age I don't think it's a bad idea to go cold turkey because she has surely eaten some "adult" food - yoghurt, cereal, chippies - so she will be able to manage textures and chewing etc. Let the cans run out, "they are for babies", all that stuff, that would be what I would be inclined to do. And start with her fave foods first (does she like macaroni cheese? That is a favourite for my little ones). Perhaps give her choices of stuff for dinner etc to help her attitude as well - either when you're cooking or dishing, give her options out of two. -------------  |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 27 July 2007 at 8:49pm
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I had the same problem with Jacob. What I did was mixed our food in with them, small amount at a time, gradually addign more until it was all our food. We use only organics over 12 months if we need to, as it is more like "our food" and not as tomatoey ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 3:46pm
| My kids will eat anything with tomato sauce in it so maybe if you chop or mash everything then mix with sauce. It's the only way my girls will eat silverbeet! |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 3:58pm
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Well we went for a week and she missed out on ice-cream, popcorn for movie night all sorts and she still won't cave. Now she screams at the mere mention of tea, so we are going to try half a tin of her food and some of ours as suggested. She has also caught a virus and is feeling really crappy at the moment so I don't want to upset her further.
She is one stubborn girl!!! ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 4:05pm
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Vick - how is she doing now? ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 4:09pm
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no dont go back to canned food....that will give her the message that she won...(i know its not a battle tho).
does she eat baked beans and adult canned food? i would just dish up dinner and if she doesnt eat it dont make a fuss of it. i dont think the approach of "if you dont eat your dinner you wont get an ice cream, or popcorn" or whatever really works as they dont seem to associate the two together. to her she possibly sees it as you are just being mean. |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 4:22pm
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She won't eat macaroni cheese but we have discovered she will eat spaghetti and homemade beef rice risotto, what she will eat is so random. She will either eat something and love it or not try it at all.
I'm completely split down the middle with this and DH doesn't help his input is "do what you feel is best" not very helpful. Part of me does not want to give up like gandt said she will know she has won, but I don't feel right just feeding her bread before bed, it goes against all of my motherly instincts. This child is going to give me grey hair.
Wean her off or cold turkey. The only major problem is if I do wean her off it she won't even bother trying our food she will eat hers and then stop eating! ARRRGHHHH  ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 4:54pm
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well it sounds like you have already chosen cold turkey, you cant go back now. maybe you should stop giving her bread before bed too...it would be too easy for her to stop eating dinner if she knew a piece of bread would stop any hunger before bed.
my husband is the same...i hate when he says do what you think is best. there is a reason i am asking for his input... grrrr! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 August 2007 at 5:27pm
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I have found at this stage Ayja is very random too. she loves chicken curry pasta, butter chicken, sweet chilli chicken lol.. notice the trend. anything chicken or spicey!
She also likes most noodles, loves her mashed potato, especially with gravy on it.. or grated cheese. We kept putting things on her plate and every once in a while she surprises us.. ie brocolli or peas... she has started eating peas when she sees paris eating them.. making "sticky peas" ie.. sticks the peas to her mashed potato. We also have a rule that if they want their drink of juice.. (only have this at teatime, watered down) they have to have eaten their veges first. paris has learnt to eat her veges first off and get her drink straight away, ayja is learning to do the same depending on what her veges are. i guess giving incentice has worked for ayja.. and positive role modelling from paris. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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