q about recovering from csec

I recovered really well from Olivia's c-s and I only have one child so my advice is from what would be my own point of view.
It took me about a week all up to be able to get out of bed with no pain and about 4 weeks before that dull ache went away. I was told that under no circumstances was I to lift any more than my baby for the first 6 weeks nor drive.
I was set up with an in home cleaner, have you looked into that? Maybe you could talk to maternity and get them to get someone to phone you. Make sure that you have a list of jobs in your hand that you want them to do.
For the first week or 2 I would say that you need to get someone in to give you a helping hand. I would get my mother to take a couple of weeks off and take Olivia out during the day and bring her home for naps. It would mean that she would still basically be home and then I could sleep with extra hands.
Wishing you the very best

it depends on how well you recover too. some people take longer than others. for both of my c/s i was back doing things rather quickly.
i would suggest looking into home help and see if you are able to get some help from WINZ to pay for it?
mostly things like lifting bubs, hanging washing, changing nappies, especially if you have a kicky toddler like jack was
the walking up the hill would be hard for a couple of weeks i'd imagine! i was walking around ok but it didn't take long for me to get tired and sore.

I didn't get any housework help when I had my c/s baby. I can't help much with the 2nd baby c/s question but it definitely is time to be thinking of who can you leave Haleigh with when you need a break and if you have any friends who might want to come over and just hang with ya for the first couple of months - for an afternoon every now and then anyway. Your MW will be able to talk through some of the implications I'm sure.

You will probably need to stay in hospital for the first 4 days, and may be able to do a short walk (with the stroller) after 2 weeks. So you'll need some help while you are in hospital (even if you don't get an elective c/s it sounds like you might need to plan on an emergency one just in case). And if you have coming into bed with mum and dad routines, you'll need to especially watch that Haleigh doesn't try to crawl over your tummy post-surgery.

The best tip I have for post-c/s is to have your freezer well-stocked with prep meals: casseroles and even cakes that can be thawed and heated etc. I found standing to do dinner very difficult at first and the prep meals we had were awesome.

Umm- im yet to experience the toddler & having newborn via c-sec part but..

I agree everyone recovers differently- i was one of the lucky or maybe stupid ones who was back to normal in a week (And doing things i shouldn't really have done BUT i felt fine with it & had no problems accruing from it)

The best advice i was giving before having Brae & totally believe it helped with my recovery was getting up to walking ASAP. Walk those corridors while your in hosp & get things going again physically. Lots of pillows help. Just hold them on your tummy to cough & when holding feeding bubs.
Re the house work- just gotta let your standards slip abit hun. And washing; invest in clothes airers- so your not reaching up to the line & that way you can kinda keep up with it all. Definitely what busymum said about the freezer meals or LOVE T/A's.

Hope it all goes well for you Monique- Whatever happens

Its been 12 weeks since my 2nd c section and with a toddler of 2 yrs. I agree with the others re lifting i was told no lifting with my toddler. My advise re the housework is depends on your recovery, I was vacumming and handing out washing carefullywithin 10 days but with the hanging out washing i don't have to reach up and stretch. I know others who haven't been able to do this for 4 weeks. You will soon no if you have down too much.
If you need to cough or sneeze hold that tum in otherwise you will go ouch!!!
I also agree with others go for short walks in the hospital while in there.

Sheree
Jack - 2.5- anaphlyaxis to egg
Kaleb - passed away 1 day old, placenta abruption, March '07

we have a clothes airer cause its to dangerous to use our clotheline it to high up for me to get to. so that parts a bonus.

our house is 2storied and main part is upstairs so i hve to walk up stairs no matter what lol.

i was going to prepare meals but sionce we were moving we thought it was no need to invest in a bigger freezer so I didnt cause our freezer barely fits our weekly frozens lol, but i have a crockpot and that helped heaps with haleigh.

we will be moving in august so not sure i'll handle that, hoping i recover well.
with my episiotomy i recovered well and barely took the painrelief, ive never been big on taking painrelief.

we dont get treasures mags i dont really read magazines lol i onyl read them when they free hehe

Im pretty sure some friends wouldnt mind coming over to help out if i need them to (should ask them first eh lol).

Haleigh doesnt come into bed when im in there cause shes to boistrus for me so thats a bonus but she does like to climb up on me to snuggle and watch tele so that might be difficult.

Thanks for your advice ladies

No, the home help is free and you can get them in to help you clean a few times a week depending on your circumstances. DONT refuse it on grounds of "I like my house cleaned this way" OR "I don't want them going through my stuff". They go through with you what you want them to do and the person who comes in gets that list. I was all ready to refuse but I am glad I didn't. It was nice to have my bed made and floors cleaned, nice to have the toilet scrubbed and dishes dried. She saved me so much time that I spent getting to know Olivia. COMPLETELY worth it.
How long is a short time with MIL?? Maybe get her to spend as much time as possible with Haleigh as a "treat". Do you have any friends that can come and let you sleep while newborn sleeps and take Haleigh out? I think the biggest thing for me above all else is sleep. Without sleep I can't function, when I don't function I don't look after my family. Everything else can go hang as long as I get my sleep.

GAH don't you hate that? Well use and abuse what little time you can manage to have around. I would arrange the sh*t out of everything and make sure that I could get some sleep. I remember those first 2 weeks of being so high with life and creation after the birth and then sagging with exhaustion as sleep deprivation started to kick in. I wont be doing that next time around!

wow cant believe its been 3wks already Kell since your wee James arrives.
Hope my James is here soon.

MIL may not be able to make it now as the man she looks after (81yr old man) is very sick but a friend has offered to help out by taking Haleigh if we need.
So I have got a few friends that I know are willing to help which is great.

Will be giving my mw a call soon if I still havent heard back from specialist hate waiting lol.

hehe yeah true, im sure df will do 90% of it for me though anyway he's pretty good like that lately. esp now that im so big it hard to bend and move properly, and i think he's realised csection is most likely a definate.