Your recommended time to have a baby

It's totally up to personal opinion really. I can't imagine being pregnant again for around another 3 years at LEAST, whereas some of the ladies already TTC have bubs who are less than 6 months old - it depends on what you want, what you can afford, how you want to work things etc.

november is a great time to have a baby...

Summer baby then you don't have to worry about colds etc, & you don't need to buy as much stuff, or spend so much on heating.

I guess it depends on how long it took to fall pg the first time. For me it was a few months of not trying & for the second one it was a few years of trying, so I would answer your question with - anytime that you feel ready

Jazzy - I found the same with my first but im now kind of put off by being stuck indoors while she is crawling.. But I guess the pro to that would be that in summer she wil be walking!

DS1 was nearly 4 when we had DS2 (had m/c inbetween) it was a great age gap as I still got to spend heaps of time with DS1.

DS2 was 10mths when I was pg with DS3, (not planned was going to wait a bit), in the start I still had one on one time & time to myself when they were having sleeps, but it was hard work, now DS2 is 4 & DS3 is 3 they play together a lot, & fight but are good mates. It is full on, maybe a boy thing.

At the moment I find kindy hard as DS3 wants to go but is too young, so we play for a while when dropping off DS2 but I want DS2 to make new friends without DS3 around.

So in Dec DS2 will be 5 & go to school with DS1 who is 8, so I know he will be ok, & DS3 will start kindy & I will have some me time back.

There are times when the ages don't work together & times when they do, if you want another then go for it. I have friends with very close ages & ones with big age gaps, & it all works for them, its what you make it.

Your right! something does appeal about a spring bubba! I agree they do kinda come when they want but as dd wasnt planned for so soon in theory it shouldnt be too hard to conceive another. Well hopefully. The only thing about coffee groups etc is I get seriously discriminated. I am only 18 and often get frowned upon which really puts me off. I tried a young mum course but i couldnt bear the b***ching they done about every one. They were realy hard to get along with and i found them very immature. But then im not sure id fit into somewhere like a parent centre or play group..And thats purely because of my age

Oh and I was only really young when I had my first. Luckily I found an old friend from school with another kid and we found a nice playgroup together.
I have tried a few and totally understand feeling looked down upon because I am so young (and probably look younger)
I could never do the 'teen' groups either - doesnt really give young mums a good name.

Everyone thought we would have waited ages to have a second as I was still young but my theory was while I am dealing with babies/toddlers to just get it all out of the way, and by the time the girls are in school I am still young enough that I can then concentrate on getting a job/studying or whatever.

I found being pregnant in summer o.k,but it was in 2006 and that summer wasn't as hot as it was like this years. And now I'm doing it all over again! I did have a friend who had a November bub and she found it hard to keep her bub cool,especially in hot cars. I think any season has its pros and cons!

Madiandme not sure what you consider young Mum, but I bet if we put our head's together we could find something in taranaki I prob don't fall in young but I do know alot of young Mum.s
As for best time to have baby after 2 winter's and one summer i am going to say summer is better Alan has been so much healthier then all my babies. So will be testing my theory in feb next year.
Just read your other and I not sure about parent center or thing's like that maybe don't not tell them your age but go in as a just a a Mum and keep your age a little to yourself see what happen's I am not so much a young Mum, but never fitted into parent centre so I think its more of a like minded people then an age thing. There is a good playgroup down omata rd (not sure of the mix of ages there never been but planning to go wiht my girl) not sure where you live? there is a really really good one in bell block which has alot of mixed ages totally recommend it I went a few times with my first but had to stop as it was too hard to bus over.

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Angel4- If only you were in Taranaki !! I also have the issue of nasty stares as im often looking after my 1yr nephew and other children. Im dreading what ppl wil think when I am pregnant with number 2. But my partner and I are steady, we can afford another baby, and would love another! So for me its really sad to see people discriminating us younger mums.