TT Regressions

Elle was well and truely in the swing on wee's on the potty before Ashley arrived. I expected some regression but it is doing my head in!

Elle used to say when she needed to go, now she will not say and if I ask her if she needs to go or tell her it is time to go or any such thing she just yells at me. I try saying I need to go and getting her come and go too but that doesn't seem to work either.

She will scream blue murder that she doesn't have wee's but time after time after time her knickers are wet.

She's always had poo issues and hasn't yet managed a poo on the toilet - she just gets beside herself at the suggestion. The thing is she takes so long to do her poos as she holds on to them for as long as she can. When she does go she only lets out a little bit then a few hours later a bit more etc. Some days that means 3 pairs of knickers with poos.

She is not at all concerned with being wet or dirty.

I've tried a casual approach, a very "parent directed" approach, a reward chart, games, stories about tt, songs, taking away something she wants etc etc and nothing seems to have any effect.

What to do? I'm so so over all the gross undies! Obviously there are some other issues intertwined with this i.e. her agressiveness (she shouts all the time even though we never even raise our voices etc). She just seems to be going through a phase where she just wants to be distructive, loud and "anti" everything.

FionaS wrote: Elle used to say when she needed to go, now she will not say and if I ask her if she needs to go or tell her it is time to go or any such thing she just yells at me. I try saying I need to go and getting her come and go too but that doesn't seem to work either. She will scream blue murder that she doesn't have wee's but time after time after time her knickers are wet. She's always had poo issues and hasn't yet managed a poo on the toilet - she just gets beside herself at the suggestion. The thing is she takes so long to do her poos as she holds on to them for as long as she can. When she does go she only lets out a little bit then a few hours later a bit more etc. Some days that means 3 pairs of knickers with poos. She is not at all concerned with being wet or dirty. I've tried a casual approach, a very "parent directed" approach, a reward chart, games, stories about tt, songs, taking away something she wants etc etc and nothing seems to have any effect. What to do? I'm so so over all the gross undies! Obviously there are some other issues intertwined with this i.e. her agressiveness (she shouts all the time even though we never even raise our voices etc). She just seems to be going through a phase where she just wants to be distructive, loud and "anti" everything.

Wow this sounds pretty much like my DS2 i really don't know what to do with him as he doesn't care if hes wet or pooey. He was soooo good for the first few months of TT but now is shocking, tho when he is at his carers hes not as bad??

We are going through a regression too and I was expecting it - totally gross in some aspects but as Bizzy said the likeliest "cure" is time and not making a big deal out of it.

Hi Chickaboo. Absolutely fine. It all turned around quite quickly after I posted. She accidentally had a bit of poo sneak out in the bath, lept out horrified and did the rest on the toilet and from that day has done poo's in the toilet everytime. Just like most kids, she is occassionally too busy and I find her walking around knock-knee'd but we haven't had any accidents day or night for a very long time.

I'd have to say time is the best cure. Just when you feel it will never happen it does. Just stay as casual as you can and he will get there.