How do you keep on smiling?

I know that I'm comparison to some my TTC journey isn't as long as others, but how do you keep smiling, keep going and keep hoping?

DH and I had a big chat today, he thought we were on a totally different plan, he thought we were seeing what happens, I thought we were seriously TTC.

I feel like giving up

I've been on this journey for WAY to long and to be honest I go through fazes of being OK and positive and then also have my down days/weeks. I think it is natural, when a cycle fails I normally try and give myself a week to be down then pick myself up ready for OV and to do it all again.
Really hope you don't have to wait too long hun xxx

Thanks, it's all down to not wanting too big an age gap, I thought we'd have a new Bub before Christmas, my EDD was 30 Nov and that would've meant 2 years 3 months age gap with our DD, now it's looking like closer to 3 years. I've made a half hearted decision that if I'm not UTD by her 3rd b'day we'll call it quits ... But I know that would be a seriously hard decision to make
DH has promised me that we'll get PGy this month and I'm holding him to that!
The deal is though that he wants to BD every.single.day until I get a BFP! Eeeek!

We are lucky to have a beautiful daughter but our journey for #2 has been a long and heartbreaking one and is still going!   Try not to get too stressed out about the age gap. I did, and it took me a long time to accept that its totally out of our control.

Good luck, try and be positive and I hope it happens for you soon.

Hi,
Kumeroa, I don't know if you read the charting thread but one of the other girls and I were discussing timing in there and she posted a great explanation from Fertility Friend (who most of us use to chart our cycles), it's on page 1337 of the Charting Girls thread and I think it was Sag76 that posted it. As someone that has to get the timing pretty perfect as we are doing home insemination using donor sperm, I've done a lot of research!! And I've definitely heard the same as what her guidelines recommend. A key thing being that if you wait till after ovulation it's often too late, the time before ovulation (especially the 3 days before it) are absolutely the best for trying to conceive :-)
Good luck!

Hey Orca,
Thanks for the advice about not fretting about the age gap, I really need to let go of that!
I've got friends with younger children than our DD and they're either UTD or already have #2, I think that's why it's been getting to me a wee bit ... Who knows.
FX I'll get a BFP before Christmas! I'd happily give up Christmas Trifle for a BFP! and sushi, wine, ham!
Maybe that should be my Christmas wish

Hi Tiger-lily, sorry for slow response I've bee really busy.
I don't use OPKs often so not an expert, but I think from memory that they are supposed to give you about a 36 hour window from when they show positive till when you actually ovulate. If that is correct, then I'd give it a try BD'ing a day or two in advance. I aim to have the sperm in there laid back and relaxing in advance of the egg starting her journey. For example I expect to ovulate on day 13 (next Sunday), so depending on my other signs - fertile egg white mucus, open, high, soft cervix, and I will also check with OPKs, we will start inseminations on either Wed (day 9) or Thurs (day 10) and continue them once daily till I think I have ovulated. Since the sperm can live for at least 5 days and possibly up to 7 days, and they say optimal may be 3-4 days, then we should be about right. Plus I'd quite like a girl and so 'older' sperm are more likely to result in that. (As the boy ones rush on ahead and tire themselves out before the more leisurely girly ones do!)

Men are so typically on the wrong page.. even when you tell them black is black sometimes they still think its grey I had to have a wee giggle at your reaction to BD'ing everyday till a BFP lol

Sometimes I wish I was a very religious person so you could put it down to 'a greater plan' or something or other.. but I'm not religious at all so it just seems unfair when other people are out there having babies seemingly willy nilly

I'm with you on the Christmas wish and giving up everything for it! Need to keep positive