Birthdays

Hi there

My BFF had a sleeping angel in 2004. Her and her DH now have an almost 2 year old and a 4 month old. They usually spend the day together, they go out to the memorial wall where there is a plaque, and just spend time remembering her together, I think. What we do for her (her close friends) is we usually take her out for lunch or breakfast or something, give her a card or whatever and talk about anything, sometimes Emjay, sometimes not.

Not much help, really, sorry, just wanted to pass on my HUGS. xxx

It isa tough time but we are actually pretty good about, I think and talk about them all of the time and Lahe will always know that he had 2 big brothers. We haveplanted two trees fr them and I think we will do something like pnic together as a family. Thanks for your input ladies

Hi Jessica,
I lost my daughter may this year, I have been thinking what I will do come the 7th May next year. We have decided to celebrate her birthday by planting a tree, my family are all in Australia so my Dad purchased a very expensive bottle of whisky and he along with all my family with have a wee moment where they think of Anika & toast her.
I don't think I would be strong enough to scatter her ashes, I have her ashes in a Teddy Bear, which at the moment is comfort to me on the bad days just to huge it and know she is inside.
Whatever you decide to do on the birthday of your twins will be perfect.
All the best Hun.

i dont have children but lost my twin nieces 2 years ago this sunday. I will go out with my partner and do something fun like the zoo that i know the girls would have liked, and i will buy a piece of cake and blow out the candles for them. ..

Yesterday was the anniversay of a very good friends Stillborn daughters birthday, she would have been 6, a few of us decided to take morning tea and a bottle of wine around to my friends house and toast her DD, I later got a txt from her saying how much she apprecitated the morning.


Happy bithday Shayla

Toni, that is such a nice thing to do. I like that idea a lot. We have a beautiful tree that some close friends brought for us just after we lost the boys and I cherish it. We scattered some of the boys ashes around it. It has moved with us and I have lily and tulip bulbs that have also moved with us that I use in a garden for the boys hopefully we won't be moving again anytime soon and I can get something established for them.
How are you going with oyur preg? Are you doing ok, it is happy and scary at the same time, I remeember the feelings when I was preg with lachie, I still have lots of moments what if etc. You name an emotion and I went through it! I hope that you are keeping well. I find the forums a great place. Feel free to PM me anytime

It must be my pregnancy Hormones but I am sitting here with tears in my eyes!!

I have nothing to say but just pass on cyber Hugs to you all....

You guys are such brave ladies...

That must be so hard for you maudie, especially with your neice/nephew. I think gardens are really nice, a place to just chill and think of our special babies.
I can't believe that people say you are not a mother. I hate the question, how many kids do you have. I often say that Lachie has 2 big brothers becuase I like to talke about them but I know that sometimes that makes other people uncomfortable. Lachie will always know that he has 2 big brothers. The SANDS group down here has a Christmas service every year and that i going to be something that we are going to make part of our Christmas ritual and I will buy each of them an ornament for the tree.
Good luck with your pregnancy, I know how scary it must be for you. Anytime you need to vent/talk/remember I am just a keyboard away.

Thanks Jessica,
Its hard but you know I have to be the bigger person here.
She is just a money hungry, 23 year old who acts like she is 17.
It hard because she requested to have sam on the same day I had Anika, why could they not wait just one more day.
She was 36 weeks pregnant and had to fly to my wedding just in case no one in the family got to see another pregnant lady in the family.
this is what I am trying to put up with.
Anyway thats my problem
Thanks for the warm wishes, I hope everything will be ok this time as well. I can't go through May 08 again, it would be the end of me.
I am looking into special roses that have meaning, I think I will just have one rose for her.
Wow do you think SANDS so something like that in Auckland?
I would be very keen to go to a service for our Babies.
I am not the kind of woman who will lie down and take people saying things like I don't have any children etc, forever more Anika will always be my Daughter she will always be the 1st Born Grandchild and nothing not one thing or one person will ever change that. & by god if someone even tries to forget about her they will have me to deal with.
I hope everyone is having a lovely Tuesday

We lost our first son aged 5 months after he was born 8 weeks early with cancer. We spend his birthday (in April) by going to the cemetery and then having a picnic or going out for lunch, basically some quiet family time.

His angel day (9 Sept) is much harder, it was 3 years ago last Tuesday and its still very raw. We still go to the cemetry and play his song (our farewell song to him at his funeral) and I cry a lot. I also always light a candle before I go to bed as it usually burns out right about the time he passed away.