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mum2paris
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Posted: 10 November 2007 at 9:40pm |
lol Sheza.. that's when you rubs theirs back.. they'll usually look at you as if you're mad - which is when you can say "ohh, sorry, does that make you feel uncomfortable?" lolol it's so fun to do
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mum2paris
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Posted: 10 November 2007 at 9:49pm |
You know what i though i totally agree. With Paris it was "oh, are you keeping it?" "oh what a shame about your nursing" (to be met with "Who the hell said i was quitting?!")"oh was it planned"
I am very happy to say they are our surprises.. or i say that yes - they were planned they just came a little earlier than we expected.
I had the same with Ayja "what are you going to do about your nursing" (geez people you'd have thought you knew me by now!)
And we still get now the "are you having more" from people that vaguely know me, to which i tell the truth - "I'd love more, however mike's had the chop, we had a surprise vasectomy pregnancy early this year but sadly we lost it" shuts them up.
We also now get the "oh so why did you postpone the wedding?" we even got from our celebrant the question "oh i hope you're not getting cold feet" we've been together nearly 8 years - i think our feet are sufficiently warm.
However, everyone likes to know things, i probably ask stupid questions sometimes too - i don't mean things to offend - but when you are pregnant you 1) tend to take things very personally anyway.. dam hormones , and 2) tend to get everyone asking you the same questions over and over and over again till you can say the answers in your sleep.
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cuppatea
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Posted: 10 November 2007 at 9:58pm |
No one ever touched my belly, maybe I looked too much like I would punch them in the face.
What got me more than anything when preggy was everyone telling me I absolutely must have an epidural and that I was mad for wanting to go to a birthing clinic where I couldn't have one. Oh and people telling you horror stories about a friend of a friend of friend who had such and such happen.
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Posted: 10 November 2007 at 10:30pm |
Working in retail I get a lot of the "Oh, are you excited?" "was it planned?" comments.
I guess some people just don't have very good social skills. That doens't make them a bad person.... but I do get a little upset when I hear it 10 times a day.
Or when they say (while glaring at their children) "oh, good luck. You're going to LOVE it" - said with heavy sarcasm.
I just say "Is that why you have 4 kids?" and smile sweetly.
I don't think you're a cow at all. Some people just don't think before they speak. But I know they mean well.
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NovemberMum
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Posted: 11 November 2007 at 4:30am |
when we bought our house just over 10 months ago and had our house warming we had people asking us when we were going to start family.
We just replied oh we will see how things go...little did they know I was already 4-5 weeks pregnant.
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nikkitheknitter
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Posted: 11 November 2007 at 9:53am |
Like some others have said... I don't think it's rude, perhaps they are just making conversation?! I know I ask silly questions all the time just to learn a bit more about people... how about just being honest? After all, they DID ask.
And I don't think you are rude either... but don't be angry at people for being inquisitive.
But on the same note as some others have mentioned... I HATED the comments I got "Oh, it'll be a shame with your study" - and Who said I was giving up!?! (and these were my good friends! haha)
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mum2paris
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Posted: 11 November 2007 at 5:20pm |
or... and Nikki will agree with me here - the stupid comments about "how'd you get her hair that colour" for our little strawberries..
I sometimes felt like saying "i dyed it" but usually would just say "well, she just kinda came out that way"
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 11 November 2007 at 10:03pm |
good grief do they really ask where they got their hair colour? man thats when you say "hmmm i dont know, perhaps i better get a maternity test done " :-P
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Posted: 12 November 2007 at 5:38pm |
haha I usually claim it was my Dad's hair colour before they ask. And if they do I ramble on about the real story which is enough to put them off opening their mouths again! hehe (Hrmmm... maybe I should be a bit more selective about who I tell that story to. I'm pretty sure I let it out in an interview for the FPA job haha)
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 12 November 2007 at 5:56pm |
meh if anyone judges you cos of the real story nikki they really arent worth knowing, what they should be doing is congratulating you on the awesome job youve done so far with wee hannah despite whatever way she came about
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Parki
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Posted: 13 November 2007 at 2:46pm |
I don't think its rude as such.
A lot of people are just oblivious to the fact that its a personal situation.
DH & I have been asked heaps since we got married and I don't mind too much. It does get a bit annoying though esp since we are having trouble getting pregnant and have been trying for ages without success! Still I don't think people realise its sometimes a touchy subject.
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Posted: 13 November 2007 at 2:48pm |
I don't think its rude as such.
A lot of people are just oblivious to the fact that its a personal situation.
DH & I have been asked heaps since we got married and I don't mind too much. It does get a bit annoying though esp since we are having trouble getting pregnant and have been trying for ages without success! Still I don't think people realise its sometimes a touchy subject.
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