Now what?

Ok, I'll stay away from the mooncup just in case.

Havent used pads since I was 14 so its kinda new to me too! Just bought some "super" ones.

This whole experience has been a rollercoaster. I've had a very angry day today. Things like this are a painful reminder of how far away I am from friends and family. No one has thought to phone or text or email to find out if we're okay and the friend I've contacted to visit so I'm not alone has had better things to do all weekend.

Honestly, we've had more sympathy and care from DH's employers and he has only worked there a week and a half.

I guess it shows who your real friends are hey?

Oh Azza, Ive just found your thread    I have been wondering how your getting on...
I MC naturally at 6w3d, I went to the hospital (it was a sat) they did bloods and made me go back on monday for bloods (to make sure tehy were going down) and said they were going to do a scan but by then the bleeding had mostly stopped so didnt bother. They said that we could start TTC again when we felt ready, we didnt have to wait a certain amount of time. I spotted for 3 days after that and then it was all over. I took the Mon off work as I had to go into the hospital, but that was it. I passed "him" on the sunday and we burried him under a kowhai tree at my mums. It was nice to be able to say good bye.
Im so sorry you havnt had that much support, please let me know if I can do anything... Please know that it wasnt your fault, you didnt do anything wrong, and it doesnt mean that there is anything wrong with you.
If you have started to MC naturally, then there will prob be no need for a D and C. If you bleed for longer than a week or was it two, or there is an infection then you might need to get checked out (which doesnt usually happen)
Also try and let yourself do what you need to do, I found that I was relatively ok until about a month had passed then I was a complete mess (and thats ok too), I cried at anything and everything, and all I could think about was how I would have been so many weeks by now, and had my first scan and everything.
I hope you are holding up as ok as you can be, my thoughts are with you and your DH....

ugh to your friends....some of mine were great..some...well were not..kept saying useless crap like 'everything happens for a reason' I was angry for a long time too..totally normal but hard:(

p.s... it was my shift at the toy library sat morning, so when I started bleeding I called the main contact there and said I couldnt make it and explained why.

She says to me "can you call the other committee members and ask if one of them can cover for you"

So I say "you want me to call the rest of the members and ask someone to cover for me while I miscarry?"

There's silence and then she says "ok, dont worry, I'll do it"

I was gobsmacked. Sure, I'll stand here bleeding and phone 15 women I don't know to explain why I need one of them to cover my shift at late notice

omg some people I just cant understand how pathetic they are:(

for me the bleeding started 6am new years day and was still going when i had the scan on the 5th jan but tapered off after that. I had no cramps at all.

and as a general rule the earlier you are the more likely you will have a complete mc.

Just spoke with my midwife, my HCG levels havent dropped any further so she thinks the placenta has not come away yet and she is concerned about how long I've had heavy bleeding. She wants me to go to Northshore hospital if still bleeding tomorrow

Just replied to your PM hun. Yes we should totally have coffee I have included my cell if you need anything just let me know.

The ladies here are wonderful, I had the same support you are getting right now and I dont how I would have coped without it. Especially the lovely KA (aka four_eyes) who held my hand (virtually) when I started to fall apart.

Big cyber hugs.

Sorry about your hcg levels, how stressful for you, I found it bad enough miscarrying without any additional complications.

Yeah I think when you have had m/c the best someone can say is "sorry for your loss" but then before I had one I probably would have gone and said something stupid too cos you really don't get it until you have had one yourself.

My mum, bless her, was one of the worst, she thought she was being helpful but she really really wasn't.

aw thanks melnel...i just think it's important to offer support when we are able cause i didn't get hardly any(1st time) and felt lonely and alone :(

hugs and thoughts with you Azza!