Now what?

Azza, I'm so sorry to hear you are having complications, it makes something sucky downright awful.

I'm Auckland based as well so please PM if you need any in-person support.

Azza I had 2 natural miscarriages (one being our honeymoon baby). I bled with both for 6 weeks and it started out heavy and then went light and then got heavy again.

If you soak a pad in 2 hours get yourself to the hospital. If you have any fever signs or cold signs go in as it might be a sign of infection.

In regards with J the only advice I can give you is just to give lots of hugs. Grant was totally shut down. He went on normally while I was literally in pieces both times ( I had a third biochemical mc but it felt different somehow, as if I knew it wasnt a baby).

I got very very cross and mad with people saying it was meant to be, just a glorified period and I even got mad at some people that really felt sorry for me. And it is all normal. I got super mad at Grant for just going on with life and saying it will happen for us ect ect. I literally wanted to kill him.

It was only after the second one and about 4 months after we lost that lo that I woke up and Grant was sobbing his heart out. He just kept on saying sorry sorry and he is trying to be strong for me but he cant hold it in anymore. We cried and cried for hours and worked through it. I realised his just expressed his grief differently and he was trying to hold it together for me. I loved that man a lot more after all of that.

I am here if you need to chat or anything and if you dont have my landline number let me know and I can mail it through to you.

Thanks Shirena, it helps to know how long everyone else's bleeding lasted so I have an idea of what is normal.

I'm at work today and very glad to have the distraction and feel a bit more like "normal".

The last few days I have wondered how anyone manages to TTC again after going through this. Now I'm wondering when my next cycle will be so that we can try again . So things are definitely looking up.

I am concerned that it doesnt sound like anything will be done until we've had 3 successive miscarriages. Is this true? I was diagnosed with a luteal phase defect (and low progesterone) while in SA but have none of the medical records. Would I be able to get my progesterone levels tested if we fell pregnant again?

Azza, If you have a good GP, just say that you want them done, and this is why and tehy should listen to you, if not finda nother GP. My GP will do anything so that I feel comfortable, including letting me do HCGs as often as I want up to 13 weeks... (even though she said its not normal to do that, and it wont show much, but I wanted it so she let me).
GL. And be prepared to stand your ground..

Azza, you cant do that to your self... TBH generally when we lose our babies that early its cos the DNA didnt transfer properly so it wasnt due to low progerserone or the lack of baby asprin, just the same way as it wasnt because you had sex, ate at a cafe or had some cheese....
But I would still def get it checked next time ,just for peace of mind...
I hope that didnt sound harsh? It wasnt ment to be...

Good, (I was just checking).
But your right, we do need to learn from everything that we do, and what happens to us. And so long as we do learn something from it then it wasnt wasted.
Well thats what I think anyway.

Your daughter is beautiful! She is just gorgeous. I am sure she will have a little brother or sister soon enough

re the testing that is hard.. my first was a DandC so bub got tested..

That's awesome... well in the circumstances and all.

Great news T, glad those levels are dropping! Heres hoping you Ov again in a couple of weeks and you are chatting away in the June thread

Emmi she is even cuter IRL, beautiful blonde curls!

Yeah, its very good news

Feeling more like I can move on now!