Knowing when to stop

H - I hope ya GP can help! It is just soooo suckful TTC when it's just not happening eh... I was so reluctant to go to the Dr for tests and stuff too but I did in the end... It is scary eh! I have PCOS too and it took 18 months to conceive this one which seemed like absolutely forever to me... After charting, taking every possible supplement, using preseed, drinking grapeful and pineapple juices, scans, getting on the waitlist for the FS etc etc I gave up hope and stopped everything... 2 weeks later I oved and conceived So I reckon take a break if you need it ! like you say time is on your side so it might be just what you need....

When we were ttc I was 85kg and the Dr thought I should lose weight, I went on Jenny Craigs and lost 5kg and got pregnant which might have been a coincidence but might not have been!

Obviously I don't know how much weight you need to lose but it is actually something you can control and not only will it improve your chances (there are studies that show this) but it will make it easier when you are pregnant too...I wish I had lost more before getting pregnant as I am sure I would have been more active during if that makes sense. Also bear in mind that a lot of the time they won't help you with IVF until your BMI is below 30.

If I was in your shoes, I would start doing something about it now and not wait for the nice weather...I'm only saying this because if your weight is in the right range then you can basically rule that out as a 'reason' ya know??? And it could be something you could focus on instead of feeling down about ttc.

Hi H I was just lurking on this board and thought I'd add my 2 cents if that's okay!
Dh and I had been ttc for 9 months when I asked my GP to do some tests for us(couldn't handle waiting for a year and just had a feeling something wasn't right') My tets came back fine but DH's sperm analysis was dismal, we were referred to a specialist and now on a waiting list for ICSI.

I personally am so so glad we got things moving when we did as the waiting and not getting pregnant every month was driving me crazy, plus once we found out about the male infertility factor it didn't mean we stopped ttc, but rather that we have taken measures to give ourselves even more chances of concieving naturally....DH is on Menevit, we are doing acupuncture, eating drinking healthy and BDing a lot more to improve our chances.

It's really really hard finding out that there is a problem...but if you do, then you can actually take action rather than waiting and wondering all the time. And we are young-ish too, I'm 27 and DH 28, but really that's all the more reason to act now as someone else pointed out those waiting lists are long(originally 20 months for us to do ICSI) so already 2 years has almost passed for us.

I don't mean to have put a downer on it all by sharing but I just wanted to say that sometimes it's good to find these things out...IF there is a problem...fingers crossed it's all hunky dory for you and then at least you wont need to worry!
Good luck :)

thanks Jane. DP is doing his test on Monday and then we have an appointment next monday with the GP so we are getting the ball rolling now

good one H all the best

ooh no!!! hopefully its nothing tooooooo major and that maybe menevit or something can help?

big hugs hun!!!!!! to you and DP....

That sucks H! It's particularly bad only knowing half of the story! Was she not willing to give you the results over the phone? Hopefully it's nothing too bad, there is such a big range of results with sperm analysis so try not to worry too much until you find out what's what

Aww, hopefully the second lot of tests will have better results.

Glad your DH is ok about it, that is really lovely of him...make sure you have a big hug tonight.