Am I being unreasonable?

I had a molar pregnancy last Feb and have only just been given the all clear. (I have been under some pretty heay instruction not to get pregnant till now have had blood tests every two weeks its been hard) My Husband and I have been married 2 years together 8 years,
Last year I introduced a new friend to my brother inlaw they hit it off and have just anounced thier engagement yay She has just told me they are trying for a baby this is hard for me to take and now feel like its a race we have been working towards this for a long time, and she know what we have been through, I am trying not to let this affect me but it is what do you think?

Yeah unfortunately it is a little unreasonable to ask the world to stop their lives until you have sorted yours.

BUT you are human, so feeling that was is perfectly understandable.

I know i know I just hate feeling now that its a race
I will be the bigger person
I feel like I have only just been alowd to get over my miscarrage its a hard pill to swallow thinking your pregnant having all the morning sickness etc and thn having a d&c then all the blood tests doctors visits waiting to hear if i have cancer so If im abit raw about it all then so be it,

If she said that I think she is feeling uncomfortable about the situation and doesn't know how to deal with it without upsetting you. I have been guilty of saying jokey things like that in the past to avoid having an awkward discussion.

I hope TTC is kind to you!

Brilee wrote: ps shes the one that said Il race you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Then you need to go out for a coffee and have a laugh and say 'hey, remember how you said it was a race? Can I opt out, cause that's quite pressuring for me ATM as I am still recovering from my miscarriage'. If she is a friend she will understand.

But in answer to your question - No, you are not being unreasonable, providing you keep that 'resentment' (for want of a better word) to yourself and be happy for her that she has found a Significant Other and is focusing on her future.

Wanting to Conceive is only Part One
Getting Pregnant is Part Two
Carrying Full Term Without Complications is Part Three
And there are no guarantees on any of those Parts. So be there for her - in every way - and I am sure she will be there for you right back.

Don't worry Brilee it is perfectly natural. When one of my best mates was trying at the same time as us I was so hoping I would get preggers before her! it was crazy...I was thinking why on earth am I being like this, I felt quite terrible about it. I never showed it though, it was just the dark side of the force speaking things in my mind.

As it turns out she is now the mother of a 8 month old and I am still trying...you have to laugh hun or you will go insane . You can't control what is going to happen so try to let it go sweet and just concentrate on your journey and if she does get preggers well no doubt you will feel envious and jealous but remember that your time will come.

As the others have said - it is completely understandable and natural to feel that way. #1 took us 4 years and every pregnancy announcement from friends/family in those four years stabbed me in the heart a little. But on the other hand - their lives must go on and their happiness is no more/less important than yours.
Not many people who haven't been there "get it" so don't take flippant comments to heart. All the best with your journey.