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Well, have just come from the bedroom. I've been feeling really crappy recently, I think I told you I had that big bleed thing and then nothing, and stuff has been weird. Well, I decided to go to the doctor but thought I would do pregnancy test first, to rule anything out...well,...you can guess the result.
I'm really unsure about all this. I mean jake is still a bubba and I know some of you have babies close togthether but I always thought we would have ours spaced out a little more. And another baby means we would ave to come back to NZ and as much as I love NZ, my husband loves japan so muhc, he doesn't have much in the way of qualifications. I feel like I am bringing him back to nothing if we come back. I just don;t know how to tell him. We had all these plans and now it looks like we won't be able to do it. To tell the truth it was the same wiht Jake, we had all these plans and we adjusted, but we would have to move COUNTRIES, get new jobs and have a new bubba all at the same time. OMG OMG OMG. I just don't know how to feel or what to do. I gues a part of me kinda wants to come home...oh i don't know what I want. Life should do what I tell it, not do its own thing. How rude!

wow lizzle.. you sound like you are freaking out a fair bit (which is perfectly ok.. i think a fair few of us have done that lately!) why would you have to move countries? is it about the number of kids you are allowed in japan or am i thinking of china?

All i can say is think of the advice you would usually give to anyone else who posted on here. Tell him. It is not something you should have to go through alone.. you have to do it sometime and while it seems like it's better to delay the inevitable, the sooner you tell him the sooner you can work it all out, talk it through and figure out what is best for you all.   

Yes, he may love Japan, but i am very very sure that he loves you more.

calm down, talk to him, tell him exactly all your feelings.. exactly what you have written on here.. and take it from there.

I know where you are coming from.. me and mike had big plans too, i would graduate, we'd both be working, things would be different the second time around.. but hey, plans change, and not always for the worse.. just different. I told mike straight away, I can't keep this sort of thing to myself. He freaked out, and it took him a while to get used to it, but now he is a wonderful dad to his 2 girls. I'm still getting there with nursing, still relying on his wage for another 12 months, and trying to juggle 2 kids. but i wouldn't change it for the world.

big hugs to you, keep us posted, you'll work it all out, you just have to give him a chance to think it through too. don't go out of your mind worrying about what he might or might not think..find out for sure.

Edited by mum2paris

Gosh....I can see why you are panicking.....but again why do you have to move back to NZ? As far as I knew China has a restriction on the number of babies allowed per couple.....

I agree with Janine and Maria..tell your hubby and get your self to a doctor.

Big coming your way.....Keep us posted!

Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you too, It will work out in the end!!

Well Liz...Good luck at the doctors!

No matter what happens, I am sure all will be fine!

Thinking of you!!

I want to say congrats, but I'm not sure if that's what you want! But I'm glad you told your hubby, so you guys can do all the decision making together. And Jake will love having a baby brother or sister, there's only 13 mths between me and my brother and a lot of the time we want to kill each other but mostly it's ok.
Good luck with your decision making.

good to hear you are feeling better about things. It's scary as heck but it all works out. good thing is, Jake won't quite be old enough to have the major jealousy thing.. Paris isn't too bad and she's older.

Party at McDonalds.. lol - costs less than having a huge do at home like i did last year, less stressful, and I don't have to clean up - it's a win-win situation. Just have to go through the cake books with Paris and see which one she wants. I know she's nuts on Hi-5, but i don't wanna buy one of those cakes with just a picture of them on it.. I like creative cakes.. made by me. lol.

Paris's was miffy cos she was obsessed with miffy at that stage.. and i couldn't find anything miffy.. so handmade the invites, and just had blue red and yellow balloons and streamers, and plates and cups. I think i went a little overboard.. but it looked so kewl. Am thinking she might go for a spot, laa-laa or my little pony cake this year.

so, have you come up with what cake you are gonna have, or still thinking?

yeah, the good thing about first birthdays and first xmases is you can get all the "first" stuff, the basics.. we got stuff like building blocks, stacking cups, shape sorters all that.. now we just build on it each xmas ans birthday. Paris has so much little people stuff it's scary - i think i'm addicted to buying it.

bob the builder is so kewl.