Single Parents Vent

Oh my gosh I am sooo mad

My list of complaints:

- tired of my mother-in-law talking to me like a piece of dirt when she's stressed or had a bad day - get some manners!

- tired of being yelled at, sworn at, called names by my ex - in front of my son, in my house (jerk!) and sick of having to therefore tell him to leave and having to look after my son because he's being a jerk

- sick to death of ex constantly changing his plans. he has never once kept to our agreed times to see DS and look after him.

- annoyed that he gives me money and then asks to borrow some - argh!!!!




Edited by nathansmummy

Oh god, Nathansmummy that sounds horrid I hope you say no to giving him money back!

I for one am really freaking sick of my grandparents asking when i'm getting married, and them telling me i'm leaving it a bit late to get a ring on my finger before baby comes. NOT WITH THE FATHER. NOT GETTING MARRIED. SINGLE PARENT! They may as well stone me.

Grrrrrrr

So I had documented in a court order that Christmas/Summer Holidays arrangements had to be finalised by 1 December to allow planning for everyone. The asshole ex still has not got back to me regarding this. He has responded a few days ago however I was not happy with a couple of things. So emailed him back and reminded him of the requirement to have finalised by 1 December and he still hasn't bothered to respond.
I am now playing hard ball and think if he hasn't responded and allowed me time to respond back by 7pm tonight then we will just assume the status quo, ie: she spends alternate weekends with him.
Such a f**kwit who expects the world to revolve around him !!!!!

G's birthday is today and the useless ex hasn't even rung her to day happy birthday. It seems that he has either forgotten or doesn't care. As far as I can tell she hasn't had a present from him at his house and he certainly hasn't even texted me to say happy birthday to her. She hasn't even noticed but I still feel sad for her. How stink for her that her own Dad hasn't even remembered her birthday, and yet my new BF of only two months managed to remember and got her a prezzie.

Grrrr bloody useless men Shelt! But at least your new man remembered and did something nice.
Just lucky she is young enough that she won't remember but I know how it hurts us as mums

I don't know why I bother! T's dad and I made the decision to split, I had arranged all my stuff and he said that it wasn't what he wanted, I said I still wanted to move out which i'm going to do, but he said he would start making a big effort to help me out with T so that I could have some more time to myself.....he hasn't changed AT ALL, I still do EVERYTHING and it's the same sh*t all day everyday, I asked if I could have the weekend off to sleep in and relax, read my book, and he got mad because "its his weekend too", ffs I haven't had a weekend off since Tyler was born 14 months ago! INfact I don't think he's given me a whole day off! Maybe a morning or 2, that's it! He also expected me to move about 40 mins away, even though i've just enrolled T in daycare and I have uni and all my support on the shore, so he can cut out 15 mins from his drive to work, no friggin way. I'm so mad, I shouldn't have bothered giving him another chance because I KNEW he wouldn't change, he constantly tells me this "isn't his thing" as soon as it gets a bit hard and i'm so over it. And I can;t find any nice places on TM they're all crap and I want a nice one So i'm probably gonna have to go to my mums house in the spare room with her partners annoying kids who are really badly behaved

Nic - ive moved back home with my mum and while its not ideal, I would rather be here at the moment. I am using the time im here to save like crazy so I can afford a nice place for me and DS. Might not be for another year or 2 though.

My ex said he would change (get a job) but never did then it was my fault lack of sex (TMI), well duh, im working full-time looking after Arianne, cleaning, washing and cooking while he played games all day.

I said I think we should separate. Now he has left the country misses us but I will never go back there.

Im the one who will have to deal with Arianne and the questions she will start to ask, like, "Where is my Daddy?" or "Does my Daddy not love me?"

I ended up moving into my Dad's place and im now looking for employment so Arianne and I can move out and settle down just us two.

Hugs Nic!! xxoxxo

Hope everything works out soon hun

nicandtyler wrote: grrrrr are there any single mums out there that are at uni? and how the heck do you manage? I've just made the decision to move in with my mum so she can take Tyler to day care for me in the morning, and I can go straight to my uni and hospital placement (which they put me in at Auckland Hospital, when I asked for North Shore Hospital like three times in writing and well in advance). So I called them today and asked if it were possilble to change to North Shore as trying to get a 14 month old to kindy and then to a hospital placement by 7am was gonna be next to impossible, but at least if my placement was on the shore then I wouldnt have to travel all the way over into the city, my friggin lecturer was so rude, I hate him so much, I have gotten NO support I feel slightly better about going to stay with my mum temporarily, should take some of the stress off, but I cant believe how unhelpful uni has been, so p*ssed off right now

Grr to your lecturer! What a d!ck! I've also so far found studying with a baby... Most people don't care, maybe it's because they haven't been there themselves?? Who knows!