Non-biological fathers

Heya,
Right, some of you know that I've finally managed to rope myself in a boyfriend and it's going really well!

My problem is that I don't know how to deal with the relationship between Hannah and Zeke. At the start of the year he didn't really bond with her and had valid reasons based on stuff between us. Now however he is really close to her - she is always giving him cuddles and using him as a climbing frame in the morning as well as him doing things like getting her up in the morning so I don't have to get out of bed.

I want to let him know that he's doing an awesome job without freaking him out or placing too much expectation on him. As well... should I be letting him get this close? I kinda just think of Hannah as an extension of me, so if he is close to me he has to be close to her. I see us staying together seriously, so I feel safe that she is included.

Anyway, anyone got any ideas on what I should do? This whole situation is very foreign to me! The serious relationship and the kid involved!!!

Oooh, like the name Zeke....it's been vetoed by hubby though. Oh well. Good luck with everything Nikki. Wish i could offer some advice but have no idea! But he must feel things are pretty serious too, if he's getting attached to Hannah! Have fun!!! And don't overthink things, as I think that's when i went wrong.

Hey Nikki, sounds like things are going really well. I guess if he didnt see your relationship as serious he wouldnt get so involved with Hannah. Sorry I dont have any advice as such, but I do agree with the others in keeping it casual - just let him know hes doing a great job and you really appreciate it. Good luck

My father is not my biological father and he basically to me is my father he married my mother when i was 2ish and adopted me (my real father wasnt around) there was no doubt in my mind that anyone else could be my father, i hope all works out for you

OMG, how exciting Nikki!! Good on you. I haven't seen you for so long I have missed out on everything!!

Good for you Nikki. I know moving in is pretty serious, but to tell the truth, if you don't like it, you can always move out again right???

My non-biological father made our wedding rings (he is a jeweller) and although he isn't with mum anymore I still keep in touch as much as I can.

Nikki - a special visit would be great!! I am free pretty much anytime, Joey and I could always come and meet you too if it's easier! Let me know, I would love to catch up!

haha Emma... he was a romantic underneath the tough guy attitude right?

well... looks like I'm going to have to find Han a new Dad anyway. Had investigators trying to track down her bio father but they can't track him. Apparently the next step is advertising to find him. It's all a bit extreme. I wish I knew someone that knew him. The only guy I know who is aquainted with him is the guy I previously thought was Han's Dad So not the best person to ask.

How do I get myself in these situations?!?!

Ana - I'll come see ya next week some time. Just gotta get my essay and crap out of the way and then I'm freeeeeee freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

except i can't bring myself to actually do them!!!! arghhhhh

Ohhh Nikki! How exciting!
Ever want to talk about it, remember I've been there, done that.

The funniest thing about Nathaniel moving in with us happened a couple of days later - Kiya came up to me and asked when he was going home!