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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:02pm |
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Well I have read through some of the comments in the support forum and it seems that this might be a friendly place. I lost my wee Georgia Grace on 11 January 2008 to pre-eclampsia at 26 weeks gestation. Georgia is my first baby and was induced early as we were both too sick to carry one, she was born beautiful and perfect and still. At the moment I am finding life so unfair. I am now a mum with so much love for my wee girl and it doesnt seem fair that I can not hold her or kiss her. All I can do it talk to her and kiss her wee ashes box. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
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fattartsrock
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:07pm |
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Oh hun, big hugs to you. My BF's first baby girl was born sleeping at 41 weeks gest, and I have watched her go through so much in the last 3 years. I know there is nothing I can say to comfort you, it must ache so much to no longer have your daughter inside you, but to have empty arms. Have you been in touch with the SANDS group? They are awesoem and wonderful people who can help you with your grief.
Much love to you at this sad time.
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:09pm |
Awww Narissa ((hugs)).
Queenbean on here had to delivery her baby girl Ava at 22 weeks and she was a stillborn. Haven't seen her since then but hopefully she will come back.
Have you been on to the lostones?? www.thelostones.co.nz It is a NZ site for parents that have be through this most difficult thing.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:19pm |
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Thanks guys. I have been in touch with SANDS but not up to going to a meeting yet. I am back at work, I needed fill my days but can't face the real world other than that. www.thelostones.co.nz doesn't bring anything up??
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:27pm |
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Oh i don't know what to say I have tear's streaming down my face tho big hug's to you I hope you can find the support you need. Take time and be really kind to yourself. Big hug's hun.
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:30pm |
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 9:13pm |
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.
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Posted: 12 February 2008 at 10:25pm |
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Posted: 13 February 2008 at 12:12pm |
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Posted: 13 February 2008 at 1:10pm |
Just wanted to give you a hug 
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Posted: 13 February 2008 at 1:25pm |
Just wanted to send you a hug too
So very, very sorry for your loss.
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Posted: 13 February 2008 at 1:31pm |
I'm so sorry for your loss 
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Posted: 13 February 2008 at 8:54pm |
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Thanks everyone, I have been on the lost ones website, what unfair heart ache there is.
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Posted: 14 February 2008 at 1:02pm |
I'm so sorry for your loss Narissa
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Posted: 14 February 2008 at 4:12pm |
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Posted: 15 February 2008 at 10:51am |
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Posted: 15 February 2008 at 1:33pm |
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How are you doing, hun?
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Posted: 15 February 2008 at 3:00pm |
I'm so sorry
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Posted: 17 February 2008 at 7:55pm |
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Big hugs Narissa. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going thru, but I found The Lost Ones site after I lost our second bub to m/c at 7 weeks and they are an amazing bunch of women. I know many of them now IRL and they possess such amazing strength and have been a huge source of support to me in my subsequent pregnancies.
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Posted: 18 February 2008 at 2:48pm |
Im so sorry Narissa. I know exactly how you feel at the moment. I had twins girls at 23weeks. Zara died at 2 days old, and Shavaune tried to hang in there, but in the end gave up 3 1/2 weeks later. It has been 5 years for me, but remember and feel as tho it was yesterday. My heart goes out to you sweetie. Life is unfair, and right now you think why me? What if? mayby also a question runnin through your mind. My arms felt empty and so did my heart. Everyone copes differently, and nothing i can say to you will take away your pain, but i got thru by just taking one day at a time. Cry when you need to cry, and talk about it as much as you can. I also got comfort from knowing that some things are just meant to be, weather we like it or not, and mayby something would have been horribly wrong with my girls, and that fate or a higher power just stepped in? I still miss them every single day, but in time you learn to except what has happened and learn to live with what is...and one day when the time is right your arms will be filled.  If you ever need to talk to someone i wll be here for you. You already are so strong, and your strength will grow everyday.
All my love and condolences
Shar xx
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