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    Posted: 09 March 2009 at 11:13am
I understood that sex can be uncomfortable/painful after a c-section when you first venture back down that road but I've gotten a bit of a shock at exactly how painful it is. 'Uncomfortable' doesn't really describe it!

For those of you who have experienced this - does it take very long to come right? I'm a bit terrified just quietly - it was really teeth-clenching/lip biting/brough tears to my eyes and not in a good way!
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yeah i had that too, it took about 3 months for it to stop hurting like that, and then another 3 months before there was no discomfort at all.

although i have since found out it shouldnt be like that, but it also hurts me majorily when i have internal exams etc....maybe its something to talk to the midwife, specialist, doctor about


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I havent tried yet as only finally stopped bleeding last week and MIL was here.  Was thinking of "treating" DH but now you have me scared.  What hurts???? I figured since we still had the designer v......a  it would be ok.

 

 

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TMI i was ready in mind about 1mth afterwards. tried and hurt so bad has put me off for a long time. still not ready yet. it hurts a little now, and can only last about 5mins before it too sore. So DF has to really be begging for it before i give in lol.
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Eeek! you have all scared me.  just been googling and it seems EVERYONE has this problem following c-sections.  I must admit, my smear hurt a little when OB put the speculum in.  Said it was due to lack of oestrogen with breastfeeding so maybe thats it.

 

Maybe I need to express off some bottles and then have a few drinks first

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It just felt like virginity again for me, basically, so after a couple of times I was back into the swing of it. I put it down to good muscles lol. We also use KY jelly until things come back to normal as well.

Incidentally, it's worse after a VB because you are swollen and sometimes stitched as well. We first did it 4 weeks after H was born (c/s) but 7-8 weeks after the other two (VB)!
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote weegee Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 09 March 2009 at 2:53pm
Oh you so know that with a subject like this there'll be way TMI in here, so I'm not even going to warn you

Originally posted by nzpiper nzpiper wrote:

I figured since we still had the designer v......a


LOL!

I just wanted to say, we were naughty and were back at it only 3 weeks after my c section, and it was really good So not eveyone has the same problem!

Hugs to those of you that do though

Come to think of it we were still... y'know... up to a week before JJ arrived so maybe it's not the c section itself so much as a period of abstinence combined with all the ligaments etc streching iykwim?

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I thought after a c-sec you could get back into it straight away I had a week off BUT yep def need KY or some other lube to avoid the friction burn

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very sore for me too.. but maybe the case of not much use during pregnancy..lol:) and labour first not sure if that makes everything sorer? in our case didn't take long to be ok though

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Gah .. I recall it hurting after Issy .. although I also recall getting pg again .. so it cant of been that bad
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My tummy muscles were what hurt me the most, after everything being cut, that took a long time for me to heal enough to want to go there. All my other bits were fine and if my belly hadn't been so sore....DH would have got lucky a lot sooner than he did!!!


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The thought of getting pregnant again is putting me off somewhat
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It was a little sore after the c/s but did come right after not very long, just use lots of lube to start with especially if breastfeeding as that dries you out (as my mw so nicely put it).

It's hurt more this time around after a 2nd degree tear and episiotomy So much so that we have only attempted it that one time and I had to get DH to stop. I will be talking to the doc next week when I have my IUD fitted, although really with this kind of pain there is no need for any contraception. I had an internal that hurt before we had sex but I just figured that I had got a nurse that was a bit heavy handed.

Ginger I would talk to your doc if it's that painful as I don't think it is normal, is why I shall be having the embarrassing chat myself.

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We had sex 3 months after Caden and it was fine

Dont be scared, it doesnt hurt for everyone, it just takes some time for things tog et back to normal down there.

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Originally posted by lilfatty lilfatty wrote:

Gah .. I recall it hurting after Issy .. although I also recall getting pg again .. so it cant of been that bad


*has similar recollections*

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Nope wasnt sore for me at all. I bled for 6 weeks then got period so we only did it at about 8 or 9 weeks but wasnt sore at all. We were super careful of the c-section area and took things slowly but never once hurted.


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phew...didnt hurt!
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Lol Nikki, so you had a few drinks last night
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Okay it SHOULDN'T hurt unless you are talking about the wound where you were cut open With my first c-section I was enthusiastically doing the wild thang about 2 weeks after, no pain etc. My second c-section was only about 10 days after.... Actually after my natural birth it was about a week or 10 days too.


Thats probably why I had 3 kids 3 & under...

Anywya I would get a check out, with your doctor or maybe a gynaecologist. It don't think it should be like that at all.
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i would think if it hurt that much then it something may not be right... i dont recall having that much pain during sex after any of my births, including the caesar.
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