Getting motivated?

I would love some sugestions on how to start digging my way out of my rut!
Im still on meds, but have stopped counselling and no longer have homehelp due to moving towns. I dunno if the meds are doing all the should be. I feel blah a lot, but am getting out and about and have bitten the bullet( so to speak) and been out to some social events (Isla orientated), and have made a group of really nice friends here already (thanks again to the lovely emmaohara!).
But when its just me and Isla at home, I find I have no desire or motivation to do anything. I have always been a procrastinator, and never liked housework much,... but its the other things, like keeping in contact with family and friends, preparing for christmas, doing crafts, baking...things I used to enjoy, that I cant be bothered with.
I think maybe having some sort of commintment/responsibility like voluteer work or helping out at playgroup etc may help me, but them im worried it will be too much.

How much of this is laziness? personality? or PND?! Who knows?!


P.S- Im a mega worry wart by nature!



Edited by Kellz

Yeah im the exctly same. At home i just sit on the couch and watch whats going on around me. No answers though sorry. Im still on meds and its helping the anxiety a little and the moods but not the lack of motivation. It has helped the blah feeling though so maybe that is a sign its something to do with the meds for you cos i would think they should stop that.

Hi Ladies, hope everyone is feeling more motivated! For some reason I am, and I've been walking! Woohoo!

Hi everyone! Last time I checked I hadnt had a single reply! Its good to know Im not alone!

We have spent the last 10 days away visiting my family, got back Sun night. Then DH started back at work on Mon. I got really motivated yesterday, and achieved loads of things around the house! Not so much today, but no sitting and wallowing! Yay! Feeling quite proud of myself.

My meds were doubled 2 weeks ago, so that must have something to do with it. Also I have an appt to see a counsellor next Mon, so I know Im getting some more help soon. Have lived here 3 months now, and havent seen anyone,...was having weekly counselling plus 3 hrs homehelp a week prior to moving.

Hows everyone else doing?


ETA- Good on you for walking Aussiemum! I know that excercise will help,...but I get anxious about going cos Isla hates the buggy! Think I will start by going only a very short distance!

Edited by Kellz

I can relate to this >.< Now that DF has holidays (he's studying) He manages to help motivate me to get out and do stuff, even if it's just going for a walk to the park/beach/town every day. I find if I miss one day of doing something, I find it twice as hard to do something the next day =/ I don't know what I'm going to do when he goes back to tech. I've never been very good around people, and I've drifted apart from all my old friends since I fell pregnant with Seb.

I've been to one welly meet up It was fun, I hope I didn't scare them too much with my weird reclusive ways

I tried taking him to a playgroup late last year... but there were just too many people, and I felt really uncomfortable. I spent the whole time running around the place chasing Seb, making sure he didn't eat the big kids playdough or lego, or the sand from the sand pit... or steal other kids shoes LOL and it was a big building.

One thing - this site is awesome! I used to use the huggies (Aus/NZ) forums... and I got put off so many times by so many catty people it was like high school all over again. There was rarely a thread in sight without some fight going on. I am so glad I found Oh Baby!

Kellz wrote: Yeah I found that with other paernting forums too, and the Aussie ones didnt really apply when I was preg, cos their health system seems so different to ours. Good on you for going to a meetup! You could try taking Seb to a mainly music group. Lots of churchs run them, and some have limited numbers -like 12 max, and I have found them good! Massive groups put me off too!

Aussie system is pretty crap! (sorry if that offends anyone ) I can't believe midwives aren't publically funded. It seems so crazy.

Wow just noticed you're in Gizzy - really feel for you now It's really hot down here - typical gizzy summer weather (which is rare in welly) so I'm guessing it's horrid up there! I lived in Gis for nearly 5 years before I moved out of home, my mum and sister are still up there. I hated it as a teenager, but I guess it's not such a bad place to keep little kids entertained - awesome beaches and some nice parks. What area do you live in? (if you don't mind me asking)

Kellz sounds like you are doing really well. I hope your counselling session goes well!!

Alia it was great meeting you adn hope to see you this Friday

Awwww Kellz not good, but i'm glad they know now and they will be helping you out. Remember we will have you for a few nights down here in Palmy anytime you want to get away.

Yay Kellz, good to see you back!