Termination for medical reasons

I don't have any advice, but I am really sorry you are going through this Rainyday, I will pray for you and your family in this difficult time X

Thanks BC I appreciate you posting. I thought of you when we made the decision Xo

I think you are truly amazing! Your so strong and courageous! You have done the best thing for your Baby despite loosing part of your heart in the process! Your an amazing lady and a truly amazing Mum!

We may be facing a week of waiting 😞

Thats hard but try and keep busy over the coming days! By the time the day comes you should've had enough time to sort how you want to proceed. Keep talking if you feel like it. You only have to worry about yourself and hubby. Know my thoughts are with you- Ive helped others from my job walk through this journey so can understand some of what you are gping through or yet to face xxx

Yeah I had the same procedure LP. I couldn't have handled going through her potentially breathing. I'll be honest though - I found that part of the whole situation the worst. Being induced and having her finally was more a relief that it was almost over and I could start focussing on healing. Before that I felt suspended in time.
There is fully no right or wrong way to feel or be or think though.

I'm so sorry to hear u are going through this. We went through a similar thing last year, but we made the decision to continue the pregnancy and basically hope for the best. Our beautiful girl lived for 3wks. But I remember that day so clearly when we were told things weren't good. My heart breaks for you so much and wish I could fix this for you so you don't have to experience this nightmare and agonising pain.
It's been 6mths since our wee girl left us and I miss her every single day and always will but as time is passing I'm feeling like I'm finally living again. But at first I never thought I'd smile again or be a 'normal' person again. Like BC said, lean on those who give u strength and you will get through this. Take all the time you need to process this, there's no easy way through but you'll get there I promise you x

Oh poppy it's so unfair.

I've woken up this Morning feeling like I'm coping. I'm hanging out for the phone call today with the action plan then I think I'll tell better again.
My parents are coming tomorrow so we'll likely plan something nice to do as a family

Planning to leave the house today which feels a bit overwhelming but our son will be at home as he's not really well enough to go to daycare again but very happy in himself. The last couple of days he has lifted the mood when he's come home.

Take each day as it comes RD. I certainly found leaving the house very overwhelming so much so that I forced myself back to work the week after I had her because I was getting to the point where I didn't even want to go outside into my own garden. We live in a small community though so my anxiety came from meeting people I knew and having to have a conversation. That was just me though - everyone else thought I was mad. I found it helped me get back to 'normal' instead of sitting around feeling awful.

For us we made decisions as they were needed, we knew beforehand what we wanted in term of burial vs cremation but other than that I just went with the flow of how I felt at the time. DH knew the gender whereas I didn't, and glad I didn't till after she was born as not sure I'd have coped as well, so he knew the name as it was one we'd had for a girl forever. Funny thing was we'd not really discussed last name (we're not married) so ended up just deciding double barrel which is what I never wanted but felt right since we didn't give her a middle name.

I'm glad you've got your son to lift the mood - he will be your light at this difficult time. xx
Take care today x

I'm glad you're not having to wait much longer RD. Did they tell you much about the procedure? I couldn't really comprehend much at the original appt as was too upset and actually I didn't really want to think about it until I had to.

The whole thing is almost too much to comprehend isn't it? I still sit and think how the heck did that even happen to me? And I don't even go down the track of why because that's not healthy for my mind as there is no answer.
Have you got some good close friends to provide support, other than family? I am lucky to have these amazing friends who I play netball with and boy I'd be screwed without them. They're so understanding and I can just be honest with them about where I'm at. Am getting better but I do find that I can't handle stress as well as I did so get overwhelmed more quickly, then my go to emotion is to cry (or feel like crying). And when I first went back to work I found I got tired more easily, I guess my brain was working extra hard.
I'll stop blabbing on now. Keep talking if you need it hun. I'll be always reading that's for sure.