Panicking

Hi there Toniellis

Wow that would be scary but just talk to your partner i'm sure he will be fine remember he played apart in conceiving the baby as well (if you are pregnant).  Me and my husband found out we were having twins 3 weeks ago and i was s**t scared but my mum kept saying to me god doesn't give you anything you can't handle.  Good Luck and keep us informed as to when you do a pregnancy test. 

Everything will be fine.

definately take the test already!! Both of my children were conceived, well, unexpectedly - we weren't outwardly trying, but we weren't doing much to stop it either. and yep when i was first preggers this time i was scared as heck too.. in fact up till about half way through i was petrified about how i would cope, but recieved lots of helpful advice and reassurance from these lovely ladies. I still have moments every now and then but I can rationalize my way out of them now... lol.. sometimes even if you are thinking about it.. it's alot different to being faced with the situation.. and when it happens and it's out of your "control" then you can get a bit jolted by it. I'll see if i can find my initial post i wrote when i thought i was preggers this time and have a look.. i'm pretty sure i was just as scared and unsure as you are...


here you go, i copied it and pasted from my post i started about 5 days before i found out:

"Sept, 27, i couldn't wait any longer, i took a test this morning.. there is a free pregnancy service across from paris' daycare.. so off i went.. and it was positive. so my feeling was spot on. i'm still a bit numb and shaky, we are both sorta thinking.. omigod.."

that's pretty mild. but i think if you have a look on most of the posts that us second-timers have started or contributed to, we have all been just as worried. it's natural to worry about how you will fit another child into your life. take the test, then either way ou can start figuring it all out. hope this helps.

Edited by mum2paris

no, not too early - there's huge criteria for breastfeeding being a successful contraceptive.. has to be a certain amount per day etc, overall it's not really very effective at all... and it will usually delay your period - if you have had your period then you are just as fertile as ever i'm guessing.

beleive me i know exactly how you feel with the study thing.. i was 20 when i began my nursing, got preg at end of first year, delivered half way through 2nd year. and took some time off then they split my papers and i have had to do part time up till now. i begin my 3rd yr 6 wks after baby is born.. that's 2 yrs of part time study to finish 6 months worth of papers..argh!

and don't stress about everyone else.. i had the same thing.. my family were like "oh, now you'll never finish your nursing what a waste, blah blah" now they have seen that i am carrying on no matter what they have shut their mouths.

good luck. you never know it could just be stress.. but take a test and see.

Well I went & bought a test this morning and so I did it and it has one bold line and one really really faint one. You can hardly even see it.
Is this a positive??
I read the instructions and it said one of them can be fainter than the other but you can hardly even see the second line on my test.
Is there any quicker way of finding out if it was a positive? Or do I just have to wait for a couple of weeks and try again?

yep that's positive.. both of mine were like that, VERY faint. if you really want to be sure, try a test in another 2 days or so..but otherwise, just go to the doc like lizzle said.. after all - it should be considered a maternity visit, and therefore free (for the first 12 wks of pregnancy).

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your should tell your partner that you think you might be pregnant so you have his support even if he doesnt want another baby just yet im sure he will support you. You can go to the doctor so you could find out for sure. i think your test was a positive like mine.let us no how you get on.

Rachel & Brianna

Yeah it kind of sounds to me like maybe your partner thinks you are wanting to try for another one. Be up front with him that this is not what you had planned either, tell him its not a case of wanting to "try" for another, but that you think you are already pregnant. I am quite sure he will support you 100%, as I said its not like it was something you had planned for right now anymore than he is.

Good Luck

Talk to him he needs to know whats going on so that he can support you, he may be shocked but so were you and he will get over it, (of course being a male it may take him abit longer lol )

Good Luck

Kerryberry is right... be upfront and tell him! If he knows its not planned, but still happening at least he's prepared!

You've got us to vent to if he doesn't take it well...

Toni - to tell the truth when I found out I was pregnant - was not the happiest time of my life. My husband and I disagreed about what to do...however, two months later when we saw bub at the scan, all was forgotten. And it will happen that way for you too I think. Now, it's a bit of a shock, but after it's worn off, I hope you'll both be excited. As for your mum, you are a grown adult. If you want to have another baby, thats up to you (and your partner i guess!!). It's not like you have twenty of them or anything!!