Y judge us???Nobodys perfect

Hi Tami,

Personally I think 14 is very young to have a baby, but the fact that you stepped up to the plate and have accepted responsibility is a mature step in itself, alot of girls your age have abortions etc. Good on you for staying in school, I doubt it's easy raising bubs and keeping up with school work. Unfortunately young mums along with single mums are always going to cop an unfair amount of flak, usually by people that have no idea what they are talking about. I wish lots of luck and happiness for the future with your beautiful bubs.

his names Khayle james(khayle is said kale most people cant read it lol).today hes 1 month old

yeah if any thing i think that the young mothers are better.because of my age i get no money at all for my little 1.im lucky my mums helping out and we made a deal that when im old enough i will give her $100 a week 2 pay her back.its really hard 4 me.his father wants a dna test and is being a c**t about it.most young mothers find it harder but we all cope.i love my son very much and im learning not to care wat people say and think because im not the only young mum out there and their are mums a lot younger then i am!!!thanks 4 helping me see that im not alone and that every ones always gonna judge me because of my age!

that really sucks that you can't get help from the government. it's going to be 4 years until you are eligible for the dpb right?

does khayle's father qualify for legal aid? if he wants a dna test then if he doesn't qualify he's going to have to come up with a lot of money!

Tami you sound like you have really stepped up and are a good mum. I like to believe that no matter what age you are everyone has the potential to be a great mum, it's up to them whether or not they turn out that way. My sis was 15 when she got preg and 16 when she had her little boy. She hasn't changed, she still parties, drinks smokes and does all manner of other things, my mum has guardianship of my nephew who's now 6 and a half months, and my sister still lives with mum and yet hardly even speaks to her son at all, doesn't pick him up when he cries, and does nothing for him at all.

But you, sound like you are doing well and have a good head on your shoulders, keep up the great work, it's hard being a mum and even harder with society looking down on you. The best way to show them they are wrong is to carry on with what you are doing. Everyone thought it was the end of my life when i got pregnant at the end of my 1st year of nursing. well, i have 1 year left to go, i have had 2 children while i have been studying and yet still i am carrying on. i will finish 6 months short of my 5 year limit, all my classmates i began with have graduated, but once i graduate i will already have a family, as well as a career - some people will never be that lucky. don't let what others think get to you... when you see someone looking at you badly hold your head high and smile at them.

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hey tami

im a young mum my daughter is now 13 months old i had her wen i was 17 which i thort was young but from the moment i found out i was pregnant there was no way i could have got rid of her at all im gald i kept her and i still am till this day i love her more than anything. and good on i bet your son is jsut beautiful its good to talk to young mums cause i dont really no many. by the way cool name.

Rachel and Brianna

Being a young mum is so hard, i was 18 when I got preg... People automaticlly pressume young mum bad mum, when I went in2 unexpected labour with Caleb @ 26weeks 1st thing they did waa drug and alchol testme, I felt terrible, He spent time in the neo nates where a met a 15yr old mum, she seemed really un aware as to wat having a child meant, I later found out her child was early due to doing drugs, and when they took her home after 3mnths she was back in 2mnths with nearly every bone in her body broken, she had continued to drink an party and do drugs while breastfeeding and taking the baby to partys where she was dropped and abused, by her, her friends and her partner, they left baby at home alone and where just terrible,they crushed voltaren and gave it to her to stop her crying.. when it made the papers the headline started along the line of teen parents to young to cope... stereo typing that all teen young mums wont cope, it makes me mad.. Congratulations on stepping up and doing whats right for your son, youll will have time to get out and have a life eventually but im glad you are doing whats best for your son now, and wow its great your still in school

14 is very young to have a baby - I know I wouldnt have been ready for a baby when I was 14. Maturity plays a very big part in it all and you sound very mature and responsible Tami. Good on you

I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when my daughter was born, but in a completely different situation - my husband I and got married before I turned 19.

i completely agree with u Judith!!!!

yeah I was boarding with a family freind who was seeing a guy whod had issues etc and he commited suicide because  their relationship didnt work out and he had a meltdown.We all believe to this day that he was just trying to use it as a scare tactic but obviosly it went further than he planned.It gave me the heebie geebies when we found out he had died cos i was sittin in the lounge with him while he was writing the letter.he asked me how to spell sympathy....... little did I no.

This was about 2 1/2-3 yrs ago now.U do have to be in a low dark place to commit suicidel.its soooo sad to think people can get that unhappy.

I agrreed with Judith on that particular incident about the mother.so sad for the baby.

thats the thing with suicidal people tho is that they dont talk to people so NO ONE knows they are that bad untill its too late.