Young Mothers???

Hey guys,

Just wondering if their are any "young" mothers/dads out there.

I gave birth to my daughter 6 weeks before my 18th birthday. When I tell people my age they look down on me etc - even though I am not a "typical" teen mother.

I have been with my partner (and the father - who is 24) through out the whole "process" and we are also engaged - trying to set a date!! We are well set up and a happy family yet I am looked down on cause of my age (I am now 19)

Anyone has any problems with this?
Or what are your thoughts on teen pregnancy etc? (any opinons ok!! I wont take it to heart )

I don't think there is anything wrong with it so long as you are in a good stable relationship, which you are, I would have had kids at your age if I could have.

Honestly don't worry about what other people think because it doesn't matter, you will never be able to please everybody and there will always be someone who doesn't aprove, the only thing that matters is that you are happy and it sounds like you are, so good on you.

Yeah - I have noticed alot of nasty people out there, However life isn't perfect and you have to take on what comes at you.

rachaelcampagnolo - I have had my "best" friends not talk to me cause I couldn't go out all the time and now they don't bother to see me... what goes around comes around I say! I hope everything works out for you

skirts - I admire you for being able to be a single mum and proud of it, a few people I know who have broken up with their partners sit in a corner and sulk, it's good that you have set up the stable environment that your daughter needs and cherish's.

Kella - you have summed everything up perfectly!! People often say to me I have ruined my career life etc, Arna will be at school by the time I'm 23 - life is only beginning isnt it?

Heya,
I'm a young mother and doing it solo. I'm part of the "bad" side of the statistics... one night stand gone horribly wrong. (Well... horribly until I got Hannah)

I had Hannah a month before I turned 20. I've only a had a few bad reactions, the one in particular was an older couple who were family friends. They were really anti about me continuing with the pregnancy as they thought it would end my life. I just see it as a challenge. I'm still finishing my degree in the same amount of time had I not got pregnant and am still getting alright grades, averaging a B at the moment. Could do better but unfortunately I leave everything to the last minute!

And now I've got a fun happy kidlet and a degree to show for my last three years work! Definitely a lot more satisfying than only a piece of paper!

To be honest, I did expect to get a lot more crap for being such a young mum, but as soon as I get talking to someone they realise that there is much more to the story than "single teenage mother". And to be honest, I think I'm coping a lot better than some of the "stable" mothers I hear of out there! Kinda helps being on this site, where people have their own views but never try and push anything on you. Everyone is so accepting of all situations!

I was 19 when I got pregnant with Ella and 20 when she was born. A few times I got asked if the pregnancy was planned - and I said yes, because it was. Hubby and I got married just before I turned 19, now I am nearly 22 (our 3rd wedding anniversary on the 5th!!) and he is 26 - planning for #2.

I havent been frowned at - well I dont think I have, if I have been I certainly didnt notice... and frankly... those people can get stuffed because this is OUR lives, not theirs!

YAYAY Emma and Nikki. I had the same, BOTH times.... "oh that's a shame, what about your nursing?" why would anyone think that when you tell them you are pregnant you would want them to say "oh, and are you HAPPY about that?" well, here i am. 2 kids, studying full time, and ihaven't given up, if anything my girls give me even more reason to haul myself out of bed every day in the wee hours of the morn, drop them at daycare by 8, sit in class till 5 and do it all again the next day.   Having kids doesn't ruin your life, it enriches it.

Edited by mum2paris

Are you finishing uni this year Nikki?

wow. my dad was asking and pressuring us into when we were going to have kids.    I finally said to him "well it's not too loate for you and (step-mum)." she said "over my dead body|" and the conversation died a natural death.....then six months later, along came Jake!

I am 27 and having my first....I would have loved children earlier tho...but I was not married.....(my parents would have killed me if I had a kid out of wedlock)....and so 5 and 1/2 years after we started going out we got married....then my hubby said he was not ready to be a dad yet....no point in having kids if you are both not ready....so we travelled and had our fun.

We have been married for nearly 3 and 1/2 years now and we are both ready and excited....this is our life...no regrets!

My mum was married at 18 and had me at 19...she said it was tough but she would not change it for the world...she will be a gran at 47.....she is over the moon!....that was/is her life....no regrets!

My point after all that blah blah is that....you have your life and you make decisions that suits you best...you make your mistakes and learn from them...never compare your life to some one elses.....I feel proud that you young mums are so strong and have taken up this big responsibility....Good on you!!!

Hi and welcome Huckybabe!!