discipline

Jake is one year old and getting naughty. We are at Mums and there are some things he's allowed to touch, and somethings he can't. He will purposely go over to the things he can't touch, and look at me. then he will touch them. I say "jake, don't touch please. come over here and play with this". he keeps touching. Then i go over and take it off him, and he goes to the next thing that he knows he can't touch.
I always say "good boy wfor playing with your toys" when he actually plays with things he's allowed to. We spend lots of time together.
I have no idea about how to discipline a one year old!!! Any ideas??

With Alex I have been giving him three chances & then he is off to his cot for 5 minutes for time out. Basically he gets told "NO" three times then he goes in his cot if he continues doing it. I tell him why he is being put in his cot (I'm pretty sure he understands more than he can speak) and then go & set my egg timer. Then when the time is up I go get him, put him in front of his toy basket & play with him for 5 minutes before going back to my housework or what ever else I was doing.
I have found it usually takes 2 goes before he figures out what stuff he isn't allowed to touch but he is forever finding new things to get into. Also he is so attracted to the toilet that I have given up on time out for that & just keep the door shut.
He doesn't seem bothered by the timeout, just sits in his cot cuddling his lion until I come & get him.
I know its not everyone's idea for discipline but it works for me. I think you need to pick everyone's brains on their methods & then pick one that your comfy with. The main thing is just being consistant. I have trouble with my fiancee letting Alex get away with blue murder!!

Lol & thats the end of my novel :-p

Were Jake and Alex born the same day?

My step-nephew is 3 and his mum puts him in the bathroom or time out - it works well but I wouldn't do it with Arna as she knows how to climb in the bath and turn the tap on and it defects the purpose me standing there watching to see if shes safe!
When she touches things like the stereo etc I say no, get down to her level and say "you kow you are not allowed to touch that" - she usually gives me the bottom lip so I put her in the middle of the floor (where its safe) and walk away for a few minutes.

Haha she is being my vacum cleaner at the moment - if you saw my other post how she got into the hundred and thousand biscuits, well she got the packet opened it turned it upside down and is now eating the hundreds and thousands off the floor... *off to do some vaccuming!*

Good Luck Liz - Prob doesn't help being at your mum's and not at "home"!

yeah the warnings really work once they get the hang of it - my warning is to tell not to do what they are doing then i count to 3 usually by the time i get to 2 they have stopped so i tell them good boys for listening to mama. if they continue off they go to time out. i had a mat i used as their time out mat but the boys just didnt stay there which is why its now the bathroom (the only room in the hse that boring to them)

i think with gabriel when he was at that stage i would just say no and redirect him... never used time out then - a couple of times when his dad yelled NO he got a fright and hasnt touched that thing again and sometimes he would get a tap over the hand after a warning that he would get a smacked hand if he touched it again. we still dont really do time out...

really 3 times in a month - i started it just after they turned 2 and i have to say keegs can be in there 3 times within 15 min!!!! but it does work if not the first time then at least by the 2nd or 3rd time

Edited by k&jsmum

did anyone see it last week? (i think) i pissed myself when the little girl was on the naughty chair and her mum said her friends weren't allowed to come over anymore and she replied quickly...'that's ok i don't like them anyway!'

I put Quinn in time out. He gets asked once not to do whatever he is doing wrong, the a warning and then i put him in the hall facing the shut toilet/bathroom door for about a minute. I used to put him in his cot but didn't want to build up a bad association there, and also I'd put him in his cot and he'd think it was fun!!

It took a couple of tries to get him to stay in his spot, and I am still not sure he really understands the punishment but he is much better behaved when he gets out. Usually his punishment is for hitting, which I find he does when he gets too hyped up playing so the timeout gives him a chance to settle down.