Why can’t I find motivation?

Hey Tischler, I can sooo identify with what you are saying. Throughout my life I've really struggled with my weight and always thought I'd lose weight for my wedding, did I, no. Then when I started TTC and nothing happened, we went along to FA and the specialist told me that losing weight may help, even before that everything I read told me that my weight could affect my chances of conception, did I do anything about it, no. Then every month when I got a BFN I would blame my weight and hate myself for not sticking to my healthy eating regime. I was incredulous of the fact that despite how much I wanted a baby, I couldn't stop my bad eating habits even for that.

I wonder if I have used my weight as an excuse for things not happening, as you are suggesting. It is such a deep psychological thing for some of us that it would not surprise me.

One day something clicked for me, I can't really explain what it was. But the conclusion I came to is that I was not going to lose weight because it might help me to conceive, I was going to lose weight because I wanted to. I really do think that to lose weight, you have to want to for yourself, not because of some event or a potential medical implication, no matter how much you might want to be slim for that event or to overcome your potential medical issue.

I lost 6 kgs in 5 weeks and got my BFP from first round of IUI. Since then I am just concentrating on eating healthily vs losing weight. I am about 20 kgs overweight still so will tackle that after bubba arrives methinks!

Don't know if this helps you but just thought I'd let you know that you are not the only one who feels this way.

Good luck with your FET, really hope you get your little miracle soon.

Edited by frankie

Thanks kebakat - I think you may have suggested this to me in the past as well. Maybe I'm just too chicken.

Though in saying that I ate some lollies today and immediately felt ick afterwards - I keep thinking of the ad "the sign, the sign" and maybe it was my sign to get sorted.

Contemplating starting another thread for IVF'ers trying to lose weight .... I figure there'd be far less people, and the weightloss thread seems so overwhelming. Somehow going through IVF and trying to lose weight to get pg is different - maybe I just feel we're 'special' and I'm discriminating - sorry if I am.

Hmmm, I'll give myself another day and have another squiz at the weightloss thread to see if I'm game enough ...........

Thanks for your comments!

I so know what you mean about finding motivation! I fully admit the infertility thing got me so down that I could not face failing at weight loss as well!

Eventually I joined WW online because I was too ashamed to go to any meetings or to be obviously dieting. The first 500g I lost felt like the first success I experienced in my life for ages. That motivated me!

Hiya, thread has started - IVF and those kg's

To be honest, I have always had doubts about getting motivation from the coaches... Does it work?