Do I name him on the birth certificate!??

Im sure someone will be along with more info but as far as I know he can be forced by the courts to sign the birth cert but you might need to get a dna test done first if he denies hes the father, also with his name on the cert he has rights regarding where you live, which to me wouldnt be worth the hassle.

My childrens father isnt named but they will know who is regardless :)

Humm - no he hasn't agreed to be on the birth certificate - we are not really in talking terms! I value your opinions! Thanks heaps! Maybe it's just worth the hassle to have him on her birth certificate! Guess my little girl is the best gift s man has given me!

Nope - if you are on a domestic purposes benefit he pays but you don't receive child support on it. I used to worked for IRD and we would always get woman ringing up about it. You just get your benefit topped up by about $10p/w. Better off going on a private arrangement with him. Is he doubting paternity or anything like that? Your always better off having him on the birth certificate because if he isn't doubting he is the Dad but just doesn't want anything to do with the kid then it can come back to bite you if you haven't named him KNOWING who the father is. Having said that, if you want to move on with life and have agreed with him that you don't require anything of him financially or otherwise then leave him off but it has to be a forever thing, you couldn't go chasing him years down the track having changed your mind.

Jessaroo - no thank you! Appreciate your response! It's so hard to know what is right in this situation! Don't think he will ever change his mind regards to wanting to be part of her life! But then again who knows!

So he really pays nothing then - only an additional $10 to a benefit!? Humm not worth the hassle!

Thanks again - regards

Hi if you don't name him on birth cert he has no legal rights to your daughter unless he goes through legal proceedings and DNA . And you can choose to receive it through ird if you don't accept it through winz and you get paid child support monthly 7% of his earnings per child but to get that he would have to be on cert.

If you knowingly don't put him on the birth certificate though and he changes his mind or you decide to claim something from him later on down the track your the one it comes back on. You can put him on it - and not have him sign it and even though you wont be able to claim - if it hits fan later then at least he is the one who didn't sign - not you who intentionally didn't put him down kind of thing, if that makes sense. Looks better for you. Agreed with Lorna though that he doesn't have to be on the birth certificate for him to be the Dad but you cant decide not to put him on it now (signature or no signature) and then change your mind down the track is all I'm trying to say. It's not a decision to be taken lightly!

JaniceN - what do you mean by claim via IRD!? Do you still receive this even when you return to work regardless of what you earn!?

Can I just say I think even though they choose not to step up and be there they helped create a life and to bring them up and support them financially it is bloody expensive and monthly you'd spend more than what they have to legally give. So make him pay for that life he created until they turn the age of 18 to help with expenses it the least he can do. It takes a real man to step up and be a dad and any loser can be a father and that will be what he is stated on the birth cert father . Make him at least have to take the responsibility of paying for the life he created.

Hey i've been through a similar situation with my second child. I chose to include him on the birth certificate, although luckily in my case he was willing to sign. I don't receive his child support directly, because i'm on a benefit, but when i come off the benefit i will get his whopping $36 a month support. lucky me right? :) my main concern with having him on the certificate however is custody rights, in the event i pass away... He has now had zero contact for a year. So basically having the father on the birth certificate has it's pro/cons, but in my opinion it's better to have on there! best of luck

I think you have to be realistic & work out what it is you want. You talk about him earning 90k & how much you could get off him, so I can understand why he doesn't want to be involved since it was only for 6 weeks.

If you don't work & get a benefit then money he pays will not go to you it will go to subsidizing your benefit. If you work then he can make an agreement to pay you, either way it will not be a great amount & when he has more kids the amount he pays for your child will drop.

If you name him on the birth cert then he has rights & you will have to take him into consideration.