toilet training anyone?

My DD is 23 month old, although she knows about the toilet and potty, she flat out refuses to sit on either of them!
We've 1/2 hearted tried encouraging her to use the toilet with an insert, we tried it for a month, every night before her bath and made it a fun game singing her fav songs. Now she won't even sit on the toilet for more than 5 seconds! She has never sat on her potty and in fact uses it to play with her little lego toys! (it's clean!)
Should we just leave it for a while?
I'm not keen on forcing it, I'd rather do it when she's ready.

^ goodness knows but I'm experiencing similar with our 25 month old.
Ive just backed off for a while, I'm going to try again with the knickers again next week.
Potty training is one of the many reasons I,would love to be a SAHM. *sigh*
Good luck with your girl Danda

My son was going to the toilet to do wees "Mimi" at our old place but now he refuses to wear his undies and takes out his nappie and lies on for it to be put on, and only comes to us after he has done a poo. Our third child is on the way in a coupe of months and I just don't know what to do... He knows but he doesn't.... I dunno, ideas????

Disco, it may be a little late but thought I'd share my experience. We started TT DD when she was 2yrs 9 months. She got wee's quite quick but poo was a completely different story. We tried everything but she kept doing it in her knickers. In the end there was nothing that I could do. I had to try (very hard) to stay calm when she had an accident, say next time we will try and do it in the toilet, and one day she just did it! It took a while to get my head around this as she is a smart cookie, but she just had to do it in her own time. It took nearly 3 months but she got there.

Hope you have been able to work something out and that kindy is going well.

Hey everyone, thought id share what we did, My son was toilet trained by 22 months and over night from 23 months ( which is rare i have heard but he has always been pretty erm clean-o-phobic lol)
as soon as he started telling us he was going (about 16months), we had him nappy-less when we were at home at all times, literally got up in the morning and took his nappy off, and had the potty within reach, we resigned ourselves to the fact there would be accidents.

The biggest thing was cleaning up the accident with out ANY fuss, just say nothing and clean it up. ( hard to do sometimes) But if he even got a tiny amount of wee in the potty aka even a drip then we would make a huge fuss and do a special happy potty dance. We found that forcing him to sit on the potty at certain times of the day was just frustrating to all involved after all he DID know when it was coming because he had been telling us when he had a nappy on so was more about learning to trust him when he didn't have a nappy on.

at 17 months was the first time he voluntarily took him self to the potty to wee, then he regressed a bit at 18 months, and we had a few wee's accidents when we introduced undies at 20 months.

The overnight thing is a brain connection so cant be forced, we just noticed it had been a week with out him waking with a wet nappy so chucked a towel under him and put undies on him one night and that was all that was needed, he had maybe wet the bed 5 times since then and every time it was when he was about to get unwell so having a very deep sleep...

I cant stress how important it is to not make a big fuss, we freaked out a few times at poo on the carpet and this ment he took much longer to want to poo in the toilet, he is 3 soon and still sometimes asks to poo in a nappy. But not very often.

My boy is 2 and has been stripping off his nappy whenever he feels like it, when ever it is a little bit wet, or if he has done a poop. he will dig his hands down it and pull it out, hes only wiped it on stuff once or twice, but I'm thinking it might be time to toilet train.. Has anyone else's kid gone through this?

Hi everyone. I'm new to this forum but need help/suggestions... My 3YO daughter has been doing wees on the loo since 3YO and this seemed relatively straight forward. However had only done 3 poo's since then (6 months) and always does them in her undies. She will say she's going to do poo's and will go into her baby sisters room to do her business. If I try and carry her to the toilet she will just scream blue murder and not do anything. Have bribed with a soft toy (which is sitting in our wardrobe waiting), sticker chart (not using anymore as isn't working), made her clean her own poo up in the bath (this was a recommendation from Montessorie teachers as this is what they do) but this gets sooo messy even in the bath! I've now said to her that every time she poo's she gives one pair of her undies to her 18 month old sis and her sis gives her a pair of nappies. She's a competitive little thing but this is one thing she says her little sis will win. Makes me sad as she's just given up:( She does get extremely upset when she has to give her undies up (two of them are in her sis room now.... Gosh I find myself getting so annoyed at her and I need to find a way of making it into a positive thing but I have run out of ideas! Please help!