How to go about Surrogacy

Hi ladies, just wondering if anyone knows how to go about the surrogacy process?
I have had a look at the surrogacy nz website, but could only see info on the legal implications, rather than what to do/ where to find a surrogate etc.
Any thoughts would be much appreciated :)

kazza - have you joined the nz-surrogacy.com website :) as on there they have a number of people who are surrogates, who have used surrogates or are in the process of looking for one - finding a surrogate can take time however they will be able to answer any questions you have - PM me if you want to know more info

Let your friends know you are looking for one - I did this in passing, and had 2 wonderful friends offer - I couldn't believe it! But I didn't take them up on the offer for various personal reasons, no reflection on them.

I have also seen adverts in magazines that Fertility Associates have placed on behalf of people, someone called Angela seems to be the contact. I would imagine it's a broad-spectrum ad, not just for one couple, but could be worth finding out how to get into that circle of finding a surrogate?

Edited by MaeBeeBaby

Hi Luha, I am also a new participant of this forum. But I'm familiar with the problem of surrogate motherhood. Therefore, my sister and I also searched for a suitable clinic and country for a long time. She also enjoyed the service of a surrogate motherhood. But we flew to Ukraine, in our country as well as in your country, commercial surrogate motherhood is prohibited. In Ukraine it is much cheaper than in America. In America in general, very expensive. I do not even imagine who can afford a mere surrogate motherhood in America. Probably only very rich people. We were at the clinic biotexcom in Kiev. We really liked it there. In addition, we noticed that a lot of foreign citizens are being treated in this clinic. And all this because the price in Ukraine is acceptable. Doctors are professionals. My sister is very pleased. They spoke in English, so there was no language barrier. Of course, sometimes we had to wait, because the clinic had many patients. But before that we visited many clinics in Kiev and there was empty. Patients were not there at all and we were very surprised. We decided that it would be better to go to a clinic in which there are patients. Even if we have to wait a bit for our turn. But we will be sure that doctors have work experience. To that a large number of patients can only be in the clinic that works for the result. I can say that you do not need to communicate with people who do not support you. If it's your husband's parents, then they should be older, which means it's wiser. Therefore they must understand you and help, even if they do not agree with your choice. We just need to understand that we will not achieve anything by quarreling and scandals. We must seek compromises. Only then can we communicate well with our close people. But this does not always happen, because each of us is an impulsive, selfish person. But if you decide on this procedure, then do not turn off. My sister also had unsuccessful attempts to IVF, so she agreed to a surrogate motherhood. But the IVF procedure does have many consequences and side effects. I can say that this is stress for the female body, so if you have doubts, do not do it.

Yes, I fully agree with you, the choice of a surrogate mother is not an easy task. If your husband decided to save money, then this is silly. Because it is from the choice of a surrogate mother that your future year of life will depend. If you trust a dishonorable woman, she can blackmail you with an abortion. And then you will spend much more money than you can save. In addition, you will not be able to verify the authenticity of her medical tests. And besides, how can you control it if the surrogate mother is not going to live with you? You see, my sister turned to the clinic to ensure that everything was secure. Because in the clinic she was offered to choose a mother's surrogate from the clinic's base. These women fully meet all the criteria. They have already been interviewed by a psychologist, and have also passed all the medical tests. For reliability of analyzes the clinic is responsible. And the reputation depends on it, therefore the probability that you make an error is insignificant. In addition, the clinic will supervise the surrogate mother. You will be sent video and photo reports. My sister was sent to them every time a surrogate mother visited the clinic. Because their surrogate also remained to live in Ukraine. It is important that a surrogate mother always has control and supervision. Therefore, this can not be saved. Your child will depend on it. Yes, they also thought that you can fly to India. But then they changed their minds, because they did not find a suitable clinic in India. But I can say that they did not regret that they chose biotexcom and Ukraine. The level of services there is European. In addition, I flew there with them. Therefore, I can say that at first we had doubts. We thought that the service would be worse than in our country. But no, we were mistaken, the equipment in the clinic is new, the wards are clean, bright, with new furniture. In the corridors there are many fresh flowers. the clinic is in the center of the city, so you can walk along the streets of Kiev. We really liked Khreschatyk. I think you should read more about this clinic on the Internet.