Iv just noticed this thread!.
All of Janayas behaviour sounds like Bay except Bay doesnt turn it on and off unfortunately hes like that 24/7!!! i have to monitor his play with his brother which generally ends in seperating them
I totally get your frustration!!! quite often IM the one who ends up in tears because i dont know how to control him!!! but i tend to not let him see because he doesnt understand my feelings ( he has aspergers).
Actually come to think of it Janaya sounds like me when i was little!

very headstrong!!