Struggling at kindy

Just wondering if anyone has any words of wisdom for me please.

My little girl is nearly 3 and has been at kindy for two terms now. It is a wonderful kindy with fabulous teachers and only 25 children per class.

She is not settling at all anymore, lots of tears and a broken heart for Mummy! She is very very sensitive, very forward for her age and is constantly needing reassurance that we are her friend. She tries really hard to join in and play with the other children but is often ignored as she is quite a quiet child until she knows people. Every day after kindy she tells me who was her friend and who wasn't. She is so hung up on being accepted and having friends and I just don't know what to do. I try so hard to teach her not to worry about everyone else and just to have fun, but she is continually searching for the opportunity to be accepted at kindy.

Who would of thought I thould have this problem at 2 years old!!

My Mum tells me I was exactly the same at kindy, so I wonder where she gets it from

Daniel goes through stages of being fine about being left at daycare and then stages where theres tears. I always make sure I spend a good 15-20 mins with him there when we arrive and I'll sit down and read books with him or play with play dough and try and get other kids that are hanging around to join in so im usually reading to a few of them. Since doing this hes much better about it and looks forward to daycare days and I just let one of the teachers know when I wanna leave and they involve him in an activity and wave goodbye to mummy

Thanks kebakat and Bizzy for your replies.

Kebakat I do stay for 20 odd mins and get her involved in something as you do but its not helping TBH. The teacher has suggested just dropping her off and leaving straight away to see if that changes things. I would feel so bad doing that though!

Bizzy, Laurens favourite teacher is aware of what is happening but she's not aware of everything. I might just have a word with her tomorrow and see what she recommends too. Thankfully she is the most lovely teacher I could ever want for DD and is easily approachable.

Thats interesting MrsMojo. Thanks for your reply.

Definately going to have a chat tomorrow.

I'd drop back the hours so she can get her reassurance from being at home with you. There's heaps of research that talks about that being the most settling for children, especially under 4yrs. Keep kindy on but consider taking it right back to a couple of half-days per week.