Why did I get married?

i really dont know either!

all i know is that now things are 10x better, and i love him even more than before. so i guess thats my answer! i couldnt be happier.

It definitely made me feel different being married. I had a totally different view on things, I had more respect for him now that he was my husband.

I don't think much will change for me and Mike when we get married - we already trust each other completely, have been living together for nearly 3 years, and survived parenthood together so far, joint account, bills and all that - Both of my parents have been in defacto relationships (not with each other!) for over 10 years, I can't see either of them ever getting married, but that's not to say the way they live is any different to a married couple.

Oh and I should also add that one of the biggest reasons that I love and adore him so much is because he has become so close to my grandparents who I'm extremely close to. When he first met my grandparents he hit it off with my grandad straight away and bugged me afterwards to organise more visits. And he said he wants to be just like my grandad coz all us girls give him a kiss when we arrive and leave.

For us it was love at first sight. The minute he walked into my office 8 years ago I knew that I was going to marry him.

He's my best friend, and he knows me better than anyone. I love him to bits.

For us, I told DH I'd only wait for him while he went to Afghanistan for 5 months if there was a promise that he wanted to take it further. We'd only been together 2 months by then, but he said 'yeah, I wanna marry you and make babies with you!'. So I never gave it another thought and hoped it would come true, but you never know. Anyway, he kept his part of the deal

The biggest reason why I love DH being my husband is we have so much fun together, whether by ourselves, with our family or with our friends and that is one of the most important things to me. I love wrestling with him, playfighting and tickling, makes me feel like a kid again.

For us the reason we got married was, we had been together for 6 years and were totally in love, we lived our lifes to the absolute fullest pre marriage/babies, spent far too much money on partying, drinking and travelling the world and decided we better settle down get married and have babies! So we did! We had already talked about getting married years ago, so after 6 years the time was about right for us!

Within two weeks of us getting engaged, about 4 couples that are friends of ours followed suit and we all got married within a month or two of one another!

By the way Dh and I have been friends since we were 5, so we kind of know each other pretty damn well I would think

We had the private commitment, I just wanted it to be made public i.e. that this was the person I loved and wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and I wanted to make that promise in front of my friends and family. It makes it much more binding than a private commitment. Also gave us both an extra sense of security that this is really it, it's for life etc. I believe in the saying you don't marry the one you can live with, you marry the one you can't live without.

Also, I want to spend the rest of my life acknowledging it's a formal relationship e.g. say "my husband" instead of my partner. For me, DH is not only my husband, but my best friend, the one I trust completely, the one who knows me better than anyone, and still likes me. As the Bridget Jones story goes, he tells me he likes me "just the way you are". And he genuinely means it.

I must admit Kelly that's the same thing i thought too at first, nice to see it's the complete oppostie indeed.

This is an awesome idea for a post!

We're not married yet, but i must say, When we first got engaged all those years ago, we were too young, realllllly too young, we often agree that had we actually gotten married back then, it possibly would not have lasted. We have had to go through a hell of alot in the last few years, which had brought us together, stronger and stronger each thing that gets thrown at us, we've grown together, become like 1 person.

For us, we get people saying "but why get married?" and it's like you say Jo, that it changes nothing, and changes everything at the same time. It's not just the next step - like it kinda was back when we first thought of it. Now it's really about cementing our family together, giving us all the same name, our ceremony is for the kids too. So, why get married.. lol why not?

Nah i love him to bits, It probably sounds cheesy, but it's like there was a piece of the jigsaw missing and now there isn't. I rushed to see my granfather when he was dying, and watching him and my nana together, he knew he was going, she knew she was loosing him and the love i saw between them was like no other i have seen, but i know that give us 60yrs and we'll be there, we're on the road... for my older sister who has just divorced, she saw the same in them, and it made her realise that she never had that, it made her sad that she had just married cos it was the next thing you do.

mum2paris you nearly made me cry