Is it normal .......

While it could be the hormones it's still good to talk to someone.. even if it is just us. get good supports in place now.. it sounds scary but having achild can test even the strongest relationship.. you both need to learn what makes the other one "go off" and figure out ways to avoid it.. mike now knows the signs when i am getting stressed, and will take over with the kids. I know his cues and do the same. also.. I found this time around.. i apologised to mike in advance.. I would tell him i was having a bad day and i was sorry for anything in advance. that way he knew that it wasn't him if anything did blow up.

a good thing to try is never go to bed on an arguement. we either talk it out or agree to forget about it if it was something silly.

I have been through what you are going through, I came through post-natal depression after having Paris and am still pretty afraid that i will get it again this time.. some things test me - like ayja falling off the bed and the guilt from that. i spose whati am trying to say is try and work things out together and figure out solutions so you aren't strung out, he isn't feeling like it's all his fault. once i told mike exactly what i was going through.. he wasn't only more understanding, he actually felt bad that he didn't pick it up himself.

I remember when i was pregnant with paris, at about the same stage as you, going bonkers at mike and absolutely hating him cos he hadn't gotten round to getting a new battery for our car even though he knew it was gonna die. well, the car broke down on the way to our antenatal class on the night when we were going through breathing and positions for labour.. i was hysterical.. thinking he had ruined my whole labour already cos i wouldn't know what to do. sounds crazy now.. but at the time, i felt like i was completely justified in makinghim feel bad.

talk to someone, and do something nice for yourself.. sometimes it can get a bit depressing in the middle trimester

Thanks Janine and Maria...

I agree you do need to talk about things, but when I get mad I talk talk talk and Hubby keeps quiet ...in turn that makes me even more mad....aahhh the vicious cycle!!!

I told him yesterday that I think it is a phase I am going thru and he understands...I feel a bit better today!!

I think too much is happening...we just bought a house, having MIL problems...having a baby...

I can’t really talk about all this with many people; I usually talk to my mum…but feel uncomfortable talking about this. Thanks again for reading about my emotional roller coaster....and for your advice. I think I go and stack up on those chocolates......

Hi Roksana,

Funny you say that because this week me and my hubby have been going through a bit of a rough patch too. I felt like he was totally ignoring the whole baby nearly here thing. He hasn't even organised leave from work yet for when the baby comes!!! He is working sooooo much and anytime want to talk to him he just says he is too tired but on the other hand stayed up until 3am playing playstation last friday night!! He didn't even ssem interested in seeing or feeling the baby move anymore. I felt really bad and was scared that I was going to have to do "it all" by myself!!

Then yesterday after being miserable all week, thanks to hormones I cry a everything!, I finally just sat him down and told him what I was feeling and that I was really scared! It was so good. He said he was sorry and that he is excited about baby too, it is just really stressful at work and he didn't really realise that it is getting sooo close!!

Anyway, we went to bed early and just talked and it was great! I feel so much better now!! I am sure talking is the answer to almost every problem there is!!

OMG, I have discovered hot chocolate drinks this week, I never used to drink them at all but man, I could take a bath in them now!! lol

Do that Roksana. Peter said to me that it isn't as "real" for him as it is for me... He thinks he will be more into it when baby is actually here!
I suppose because being pregnant is just soooo huge for our hormones and bodies and for the guys all they see is that our tummy gets bigger and that we act weird sometimes! Peter has been really sweet the last few days though because my legs are as swollen and painful as anything and he made me a great footrest for in bed last night!! I slept with my feet up all night, very comfy, I felt like a queen, lol

I know it is hard for him to understand what I am going thru, as he cant really feel the baby properly yet. But I feel that he should be more interested on what I am feeling.
My hubby is the kind of guy who is not good in expressing his feelings.. He will tell me every day that he loves me but all other feeling stay in! I actually have to annoy him till we fight so that he can tell me what is on his mind. And he hardly ever gets mad!

I am the opposite...I say what I feel. And don’t like unresolved issues...it eats me from inside out!!

Wish me luck ….I will talk to him and tell him how I feel and hopefully he understands. I never knew how much my hormones, controls my feelings….its amazing!
Is there any other surprises I should expect with pregnancy?

Janine, it is so good to have you say those things about mike. Peter seems exactly the same, although he did enjoy the antenatal classes once we go there - he just complained before hand every week!
It is good to know that our men are just going through normal "first time dad" things!! Right Roksana??

hahahaha!! They definitely show videos of births but I found it really good actually. All of the couples in the group looked as stunned as we were after the videos but we all agreed that it is good to know kind of what to expect...

Lewis was exactly thae csame with Jake. He seemed disinterested and there were times I would cry at ngiht, thinking i was two steps away fgrom being a solo mum, now, jake and Lewis are best of friends andthey are extremely close. It's hard for hubbys to understand and...generally men are pretty dense when it comes to any kind of hinting or subtlity, or reading feelings....

I think also before you start showing, they kinda forget you are pregnant and don't realise that you are GROWING A CHILD and therefore tired and kinda run down. You can'r necessarily do the tthings you could before.

By the way, when i was pregnant with Jake I found a newspaper article saying that if pregnant women eat chocolate their child will be happier and easier to comfort. I cut it out and laminated it. Will try and find a copy on the net!! (of course I've lost it now)

My hubby is worried about every small change in me...when I told him that my breasts were all tender..he was afraid to even come close to them....

I cant imagine how he would react, if he actually saw what happens "down there" when a baby comes out....LOL

I guess we just wait and see!!!

By the way I finishes 1 whole chocolate mud cake this weekend...I feel like a today!!!!