Young Mums To Be

Um , im a pakeha , and my parents were nothing but supportive from day one .
Same goes for my friends with the exception of one , that were pregnant young .
I don't think it necessarily matters on a persons ethnicity , but rather how far ahead they can see .
Some people ,think of the baby and the happiness it will bring , or how much they will love it once its here, others focus more on the fact that you are pregnant and will have a small baby .(forgetting that the small baby will grow up and become more independant , allowing you to do things once they are grown)
These people usually come around , it can depend a lot on their upbringing etc, my grandmother didn't talk to me for 9months, because she was taught that a baby before marriage and so young, was wrong .
She came round eventually and we're a lot closer now , and the thought of telling her to bugger off and never speak to me again never crossed my mind either, to me, that sort of thing, holding a grudge, (except in situations where they may physically harm you )saying people that weren't happy cant see the baby , shows immaturity .


Edited by caitlynsmygirl

Hey im 23 weeks preggy with mine and DP's first. Turned 21 yesterday actually lol. DP and i have only been together 7 months. found out we were expecting at about 3 months together. We are both really excited and its first grandchild on both his and my sides of the family. His parents have bought a house for us that we are just going to pay rent on to them and they will use the spare room when they come to Dunedin on the weekends. everyone has been really supportive and at the risk of sounding cliched... if its meant to be its meant to be... was with my ex for a year and a half and we decided to try... we were tring for 5 months and i didnt get preggers... was on the pill with DP and we still got preg. so i see that as a very huge hint that it was going to happen anyway lol. but he couldnt be happier and is already playing the part of excited dad-to-be and tells all his mates and talks to bubs in my tummy. so gorgeous! hehe.

I had my first boy at 22, he was planned and I was concerned that people were gonna think it was a silly decision (I was in my first year of teaching) --- but everyone was really supportive. 

 

DH and I had been married since I was 21 and he was 28.  So I finished my first year of teaching heavily pregnant, then amazingly got offered a part-time job when Harry was a few months old.  It meant I've been able to do another year and half of teaching, and in the process get full registration (it's 2 years in total).  I'm finishing up work at Christmas for maternity leave for our next bubs due in March.

 

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, although it might not "make sense" to other people, and even when it's not planned - things really do work out.  It's hard at times but you CAN fit in what you want/need to do, as well as have an awesome family life.  You do what you gotta do to make it work.  Don't listen to those people who put you down, they have no idea.  It's WONDERFUL being a young mum, I love it.

 

Oh and this reminds me - my friend was nannying (she's my age) and was at the shops with the wee 2 year old girl.  They walked past this old man so she smiled and said hello - he just looked at her and said "young mum" in this awful tone.  I couldn't believe it!  So yeah in situations like that, you just smile and say "yeah and it's great"   It's so ironic, cos back in his day, most women had babies before they were 20, or early 20's at least!!

 

And the whole Maori/Pakeha thing - I'm Pakeha, DH is a small part Maori (looks Pakeha but Maori culture is part of his heritage IYKWIM).  Both our families and all our friends were stoked.